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My Husband Almost Cheated On Me And Lied, What Do I Do?

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First, did your husband tell you on his own because he felt bad, or did he tell you because he got caught?  If he told you because he felt bad, then that's a good sign that he is remorseful.  If he told you because he got caught, I would worry.  In that case, he is not sorry, he is only trying to keep himself out of trouble and not have to face any consequences ie: You leave him permanently, leave him for a while, constant fighting, etc.   Also, does he seem to be truly sorry and has his attitude changed.  If your husband does not feel you are a strong person after that, and you didn't take a stand, he will not respect you ever again, and he will probably cheat in the future, then move on to someone he respects, and just stay with you out of convenience.  My best answer for you is to be strong.  That will mean letting go permanently or for a while at least so he knows that he cannot disrespect you again.  There is a saying for this to keep in mind if your worried about losing him altogether: "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it is yours, if it doesn't...it never was".  Keep that in mind.  He needs to go through hell and think he is going to lose the best thing he ever had, whether he will or won't is something only YOU need to know.  But you have to come out of this being respected or there is nothing left but being walked on in the future.  You know, men are hunter's.  They want to know that the person they are with is not just some easy conquest, but that you are a strong woman who does not need them and could leave them if they mistreat you and be just fine without you, maybe even worry that you could do better.  Keep them on their toes, not the other way around.
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Unless the reason he was tempted doesn't change nothing will. How does he feel? Is he sharing things with you emotionally? Did this situation scare him? Wake him up? Make him try harder in your marriage to make it work? He might be looking for something he THINKS he needs and is not getting. But my guess is that most guys won't know these answers until he forces himself to face them. Maybe a woman really asserted herself in his life and he wasn't aware of the damages until it was almost too late.//????
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I've bean in the same situation before the only advice I can give is that a person can only take so much and only you know how much you can take. So if you forgave him forgive him four good because if not you will always be thanking of what happen and that can affect you physically.
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ALMOST cheated is not cheating. Yes, I would be afraid to trust him. And he only lied because he was scared of losing you. But think of this, he did NOT cheat. So obviously his love and commitment to you were greater then the temptation that he was facing. Good luck to you. May you have MANY more years of marriage and may the happiest years be still ahead for you and your husband. :-)
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matilda perales answered
I have bean in the same situation, I can  only give you a little advice only you can determine what you want to do and a women can take so much so if you have forgave him then forgive him but if not  it can effect your health trust me I know so just pray to God and trust he hates divorces
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Damm!Sorry to hear this hunn!Guys sometime think that they can get away with anything that they do without us knowing it happening..I guess it depend on you if you trust him..Do you want to give him a second chance..?Does he want a second chance..So think about it and think to yourself if you can trust him again..
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This is really up to you, but I wouldn't be trusting him anymore, because he lied. Shoot, I wouldn't trust him for anything. He should really have to do a lot of making up to you. I hope that you think long and hard about what you really want, do you think that he would ever do this for real, or again, and if so, he would lie to you again. Hope this helps, good luck to you.
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Forgive him, but keep a close eye on him! He may be getting bored or the 7 year itch

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