lakeesha Hennessy Williams answered
This is a really difficult and sad situation to be in - but it's also very common. My advice would be to analyze exactly what you want out of the relationship - and then make sure that you get it.
How to get him to stop taking you for granted
I have a theory about relationships: There's always one person in a relationship who 'wants it to work out' more than the other.
By the sounds of things, in your love life, that person is you!
The only way to change this scenario is to turn the situation on its head. You can do this by either:
Becoming someone he can't take for granted
If he's taking you for granted, this probably means that you're making things to easy for him - and he's basically telling you that "the Happy Meal ain't worth the queue at McDonald's".
In this analogy, the queue is the way you'd like him to treat you - and the Happy Meal is you. You've got to find a way of making that Happy Meal more enticing, so that he'll be willing to queue up, regardless of how many people are waiting around to order their cheeseburgers.
The second part of this analogy comes when he gets to the counter to order. Rather than giving him everything that he wants, you need to tell him that you're out of cheeseburgers and so he's going to get Chicken Nuggets with his meal instead.
If you lay everything on a plate, he's going to get bored pretty quickly. If you make him work for it, he's more likely to view you in a different light.
Leave him and find someone who appreciates you
If you just can't imagine yourself changing just to please a guy (and who can blame you), then maybe it's time to admit that things aren't working out.
As much as you love him, there are plenty of guys out there who'd be willing to treat you right and show you the respect you deserve!
How to get him to stop taking you for granted
I have a theory about relationships: There's always one person in a relationship who 'wants it to work out' more than the other.
By the sounds of things, in your love life, that person is you!
The only way to change this scenario is to turn the situation on its head. You can do this by either:
- Sticking with him and becoming the kind of person he'd go crazy for
- Ditching him and finding someone who appreciates you for who you are
Becoming someone he can't take for granted
If he's taking you for granted, this probably means that you're making things to easy for him - and he's basically telling you that "the Happy Meal ain't worth the queue at McDonald's".
In this analogy, the queue is the way you'd like him to treat you - and the Happy Meal is you. You've got to find a way of making that Happy Meal more enticing, so that he'll be willing to queue up, regardless of how many people are waiting around to order their cheeseburgers.
The second part of this analogy comes when he gets to the counter to order. Rather than giving him everything that he wants, you need to tell him that you're out of cheeseburgers and so he's going to get Chicken Nuggets with his meal instead.
If you lay everything on a plate, he's going to get bored pretty quickly. If you make him work for it, he's more likely to view you in a different light.
Leave him and find someone who appreciates you
If you just can't imagine yourself changing just to please a guy (and who can blame you), then maybe it's time to admit that things aren't working out.
As much as you love him, there are plenty of guys out there who'd be willing to treat you right and show you the respect you deserve!
