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I Am Not Happy With My Husband We Are Always Fighting, I Don't Think He Likes Me What Should I Do?.

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Wow, I have same issues, but I have realized that I am a woman with dignity and need to value myself.....I have threee kids, yup. Married to him for 10 years...Okay, we've fallen out love...so what...move on it's better for you. Stop being so co-dependent on theses selfish ignorant asshole men. Join a gym, women's group, keeps the kids active....for their sake. Please just pack up and go...don't waste your time fixing soemthing that is broken...Life is a much happier place when you are happy...Make you the focus point, then your family, because you have to be the strongest!!
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I have stopped talking to him except important stuffs m abt kids. We live in same house. He seems contented this way. I m more at peace without his abusive words. Dont know how this is going to go but I feel bettee.
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Jim LMar answered
If you find yourself in a constant state of sadness and suffering because of him and your inner voice is telling you that he does not seem to love you anymore; and you notice all the signs of same, then it's time to...

Ask yourself the question what does he do for me? Is my life better as a result of my staying with him?

Does he show me kindness; understanding; patience; love; generosity; selflessness; sharing? If the answer is no to most or all what should you do?

When with me does he show or display anger; hostility; impatience; selfishness; hatred; silence or lack of conversation (not arguing)? If the answer is yes to most then what should you do?

Has he acted like the person you first fell in love with or des he act like he cares less for you and simply takes you for granted as if you will always stay no matter what he does? I think your question can be answered by you and you know in your heart what you must do? If you don't do it now do you think it will be done within the next ten years? If so why wait to be happy once again?

Good luck!
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My husband and I met when we were in 20's.  We started dating when about 9 years ago, and been married for 6 years.  I am 45 and he is 48.  We argue all the time, walk around not saying 2 words to each other.  We don't go out anymore, when we first met he use to give me flowers.  I am attracted to him anymore, I am no longer sexually attracted to him.  He is just not romantic enough for me.  He doesn't know how to show his emotions.  I am thinking about leaving, I have been feeling this way for quite some time now.  Can anyone help me out please.
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I'm 23 yrs old and have been with my husband for three yrs. We have 2 childern and one on the way. He's in the military so I hardley get to see him. We just moved back to our home town and it's been a battle field since. He tells me that he dosent like talking to me, that it's akward being alone with me. He always wants to be at his parents house and I don't, were there every weekend. I would like to have one weekend alone with my husband. But no I come last on his list, the only time he's nice to me is when we wants sex. We fight all the time, about stupid things. I hate fighting with him. He keeps his iPhone locked with a different password everyday. He saids he has personal things. Which I doubt. I'm really thinking about leaving him. He rather spend his time and money with his family then to spend it with me and our girls. What should I do.
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You already know the answer to that question. If a person locks his phone it is because he has secrets. These secrets mean he's seeing other women. Don't waste your time trying to get him to change. You need to find happiness and happiness will come if you GET OUT and JUST RUN, and don't look back!
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If he's your husband he's supposed to love you not like you. If you're constantly fighting than don't just give up just yet. Seek for help, that is if he wants to save the relationship, you can't do it by yourself. It's normal to disagree sometimes and get into light petty fights, but to fight all the time isn't normal. You both need to sit down and analyze this marriage and try to get it on the correct path because it sounds like its narrowing now. That isn't good. Try to help one another. Hope it all works out.
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My husband and I are constantly fighting a lot over the smallest things...I 've known him for 10 years going on 11, and we've been married for 5 years. Our fights are about money and about you said this or you said that, I'm really tired of it already. I feel he doesn't care for me and he doesn't love me. I love him with all  my heart and it hurts me to see that he just doesn't care how he makes me feel. We have two children ages 7 and 4. We rarely have sex anymore before we would always have sex I don't know what happened.... I still feel attracted to him I don't understand where did we do wrong...He's 30 and I'm 27 I feel that I'm still at a young age, and he makes me feel like I'm in my 40's already, I really don't want to feel like this anymore!!! Someone give me your opinion !!
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I have bn with my husb for 9years going for 10 now and married for 3years,we fight a lot over stupid things he always have a neg attitude towards me he's never willing to assist me when I need help for instance killing spider in the house he'd rather fight over my requests to a huge argument but when it comes to the outsiders he avails himself to help even if he's not been asked to.he makes me feel worthless I feel like I'm nothing to him,he disagrees with everything I do or say,he won't keep quiet even over small things.I'm really tired of this I'm thinking of leaving but I think I'm being selfish to my 2boys of less than 4years of age and at the same time I don't want to stay because of kids.
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We argue lots about the most stupid things.  I think it is a dominance probably and a very big ego.  I moved to a new country at the age of 29.  My husband had a very fun and flirtatious life before I got here.  I had a problem with this because girls were still texting and calling and emailing.  He didn't tell them to not either.  So, then I became insecure because of this and because my life had changed so much.  I couldn't even work for 2 years, except for him.  I never did a good enough job. He isn't good at pointing out what you do right, but is excellent at pointing out what is wrong.  We have talked about this a lot.  His excuse is that I have to do something completely fantastic before it is acknowledged in a positive way.  He stays up late and doesn't come to bed until 4 or 5.  He has lots on the go and pisses away time. I work now and it just seems like he wastes so much time.  I feel like he doesn't respect me. Lately he has been drinking some, and right now he has a friend over and they are being very loud and it is 3:30 AM.  I told him that I thought he was being disrespectful and he told me I was being disrespectful to his friend because I was up doing the dishes and banging them around.  I am to the point where I am sick of talking.  One thing I will do is say sorry and admit when I am being immature.  He on the other hand in four years has said he was sorry maybe 4 times.  He also likes to point out that he knows more about life than I do because I live where he grew up.
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Am not happy with my husband too, he doesn't care about my feelings.. He's acting like he's a child.. Am taken for granted..
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Gillian Smith answered
If you aren't happy with your husband and you're always fighting perhaps it's time to look at why you're still married to each other.

A lot of couples actually enjoy a relationship based on some arguements and a bit of sparring but this isn't how your relationship sounds.
If your husband continually tells you he doesn't like you and seeks fights you would be far better living on your own and having some peace.
If you have children it's more difficult but children need a happy environment and to see that their parents love or at least respect each other. Seeing you like this can affect them badly.
If you are childless there is no reason to saty together if you really have lost all affection for each other. Life is far to short to be in a very unhappy relationship.
You need to ask your husband to talk to  you and if he won't think again. Do you like him?
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I add myslef also in the situation he's always saying I'm immature and I do things to make him things easier, but he never sees them...and he gets violent sometimes but not with me... Yet I guess...he says he wants to leave the house...our baby is only a month old! I don't know what to do anymore
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I am not happy with my husband he always shout at me, I feel so worthless, ugly and unattractive. I loose my confidence..we have 3 kids ages 7,5 and 3 yrs old we've been married for almost 8 yrs. Starting the end of december 2010 we didnt sex anymore last january we had only 3 times on bed. On feb.it is only once. So boring, no date,no dinner,he doesnt have time for me and to my kids but to other person he willing to help but with us our kids he is so irrritable. I  hate him. I want to leave him but I'm afraid not to make it.  I still love him but I feel that he didnt love me anymore. My life is miserable.. I always cry that my kids see me like this.
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My husband and I have been married for 12 years, and I love him, but can't stand him, he is lazy, messy, a mama's boy, and the most childish person you will ever meet. He says I nag but if I don't tell him what do do, he literally stands around waiting for instruction or sits on his stupid butt. All he wants to do for fun is go the the movies. He cheated, saying it was my fault. He is terrible in bed, only ever thinking about himself. Most of the time I just want him to leave me alone, I think he thinks my body is gross and my personality makes him sick....but I can't see myself without him. I hate him and I hate myself for not being able to let go when I had the chance.
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My husband and I just don't get along. I know that I am very mouthy and sometimes can be very mean with him, but what drives me to that? I am not a crazy woman waiting to argue. We've been married for 3 1/2 years, has a 11 month old and are both in our mid 30's. He is soo boring. No sex, no romance, no fun times, no movies, no dinner, he stays up all night on the computer. He makes time for other people and other things but does not seems to know his priorities at home. I do most for our son due to making more money, but you would think that he would make up in other areas. He is so ungrateful and takes me for granted. I am sick of it and planning to cheat with an old college friend this weekend.
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My husband and I always fight when he is home.we miss each other and text like crazy when he is at work, but once he is home we fight for EVERYTHING!!! When we get along (rarely) we are lovey dovey but when we fight, we say the worst things and hate each other so bad. A few weeks ago, he said that I was ugly and disgusting,that no man would want me...I am 25, he is 20. We have 1 child together. I have 7 kids total, and have had all by c- section,it hurts,because my body is so messed up and I can't ever even feel comfortable when we are intimate.no lights -ever. He can't touch me anywhere..its pointless...I have no one and don't want my daughter to see my behavior and self loathing.I want her to love herself and not think that just because society says you need this or that -that it doesnt mean you arent beautiful.idek. What is wrong with  me????
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We are in the same situation.we always figth.even the small thing we figth.he always make me feel down.I want to leave him even though I love him.
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I am in a very simular situation. My husband acts like he doesn't like me, being with me or just talking about everyday stuff, he has that look on his face like he would rather be somewhere else. He spends all his free time on his iphone or computer. I have communicated how it makes me feel as far as the excessive use of them and porn. I tried to educate myself about these so I could approach him in a way that wouldn't be off putting. That was over a year ago. He seemed to do better for about a month. He agreed that there was no need in his being on the computer/phone was too much and was very nice about it only for a few weeks. Then he went right back to it. I am only one woman. I can't fill all that these smart phones can. He can feel however he wants in seconds and with out working on our relationship. No work and all reward? I don't think I'll ever get him back to how he was before the iphone. It has ruined my marriage.
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I am 20. I.ve been with my boyfriend for almost six years (first love), we have now be living for two years together. We are two completely opposites, which is an exciting challenge for both, but now when I want to start thinking bout a good future for us and a family to come(settling down), he wants to become a revolutionary. My biggest dream is to get married and have a family. And he knows it. But he seem to disagree with my dreams and concentrate on his. I love it so much when everything is perfect between us but sometimes our fights can become very aggressive. I just got a promotion at work and I was hoping to move next to where my new position will be, (his work is near by too) but he doesnt want to. He gets lifts to go to work morning and night, but me I'm going to be stuck to take the bus, a two hour ride each morning and night. He is not supportive at all with me and it makes me cry. I love him so much and I don't know what to do anymore. Sometimes I jsut wish I was little again.. =(
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I feel for you and I'm surprised why you tolerate his selfish & abusive behavior towards you. It seems you are an intelligent young woman who has a handle on her professional life but not on her personal. If he loves you then he should be understanding enough to do what is best for both of you. Let him know what you want from this relationship and make it clear you will leave if he's not supportive. You may think he's everything now but he's not worth it. Write back & let me know what happens!
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I am 28 I have been married for 10 yr but the sad thing<br>In that period of time we have left each other<br>6x :(I have cheated and I had a kid by that cheat<br> and he has cheated on me I have 3 beautiful kids<br>2girls that r his and 1 boy but the good thing<br>He loves my boy like it was his my son has his last <br>Name and that I really appreciate him but it\'s just<br>I\'m not happy with him I don't like him touch me <br>No more we fight all the time we both know<br>We shouldn\'t be together but he\'s allways begging <br>Me 2 take him back allways tells me if I don\'t<br>Take him back he\'s going to kill him self thats <br>The reason I end up taking him back I don't know what<br>2 do its just 2 much all I know I\'m not happy<br>Please tell me what can I do Elvira Sacramento Ca
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All of these things happen because of "dominance". Your husband wants to dominate you and you want to dominant your husband. So there the problem arises. So both of you leave your hatredness and sit together to solve your problems.
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I am fighting with my husband all the time too. We love each other so much. But when we fight it gets physical. I hit him and he hits me too. I just do not know what to do. Maybe we should get divorced. So sad we have 2 kids. I am so fed up with all these fights. I have been hurt, I guess he has been hurt too many times.
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I think in this case you should get counseling, especially if the two of you are hitting each other. Divorce will separate the two of you but won't solve why you two act the way you do. You may solve your marriage problem and not even have to worry about getting the divorce. Either way that behavior needs to stop.
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My husband and I fight often as well. We fight for the most stupid
things, really pathetic, but he gets me so angry that I actually get
physical. This really  makes me feel really bad. I know I've always had
anger problems.

Our relationship is so weird because we know we dont
cheat on each other or anything we're always with each other but the
stupid fights that get me all worked up, really saddens me.

I've had
anger issues but he recently mentioned that I started to hit him once I
came back from the army... I wouldnt hit him before, I don't know what to do,
nothing works for me to change my temper tantrums. I wish I can change
we have a 4 month old son. I need to change please someone help me!

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My husband doesnt have any feelns for me any mo he always making me feel dwn and worthless he neva wants to spend tyme with me or our baby.
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don cool answered
If this is the problem the only way I know is to just impress your husband. Whenever he comes at home just start getting off your clothes and force him to do sex. This will help
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My dear all you need to do first is to pray for him by asking God to touch his heart, for the heart of all men are in the hands of God, when you hand it over to God He will help you out. Also try and make sure you submit to his leadership.
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My husband left me 4 months ago and move to another state leaving me 2000 miles apart from him . I have tried everything possible i am very sad and hurt suddenly he started to hated me it seems one sec he love me the next he hate me when ever we connect he gets really angry for no reason and in a big rush and can't breath around me and as soon as were apart he is fine he says i am very hot and it makes him uncomfortable to hold me all i know is i sleep sleep sleep when were together cant seem to

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