What Do You Do When You Like Your Best Friend's Boyfriend?

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Penny Kay Profile
Penny Kay answered
This is a VERY difficult, place to be in. If you let either of them know it, you risk a lot. Boys come and go, but best friends are hard to find. People will say bad things about you, and you will get a reputation as someone that can not be trusted. I know that is not you. Keep some space from the couple if you can. It must be very difficult to hear your friend talk about him, when you care for him. I just think that you are very wise, and loyal, and would not really want to hurt, your best friend. I have been in the same situation. I only know that it will bring way more trouble than it is worth, to try and let Him know how you feel. You are way ahead of the pack. Lot's of girls would never give it a second thought. Respectfully Yours, penny/pencil
Lisa Marie Halsey Muniz Profile
I suggest just staying friends for now.  If your friend and him break up and it is ok with her to go out with him, then I would worry about it then.  You can't control how you feel for others.  Just get to know each other and be friends.  No one knows what the future holds.  Take care and good luck.
ABE Profile
ABE answered

You have many choices like if you express yourself it is good for you but the guy can take advantage of that.  If you tell your friend she might misinterpret it. If you want to keep it a secret nobody will get awkward you alone will suffer.  I know you respect friendship so you can write a journal of your feelings it can help you if you choose to let your love remain a secret. Don't worry loving someone is making them happy. You can also focus your feelings on another things your crush loves on doing so that he can notice you if you really sure in your heart the love you feel and just be there. Love is patient and kind so just take it easy.
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nettie answered
Don't be around them when they are together,you know the old saying birds of a feather flock together,with that said doesn't he have a friend because his friend would be similar to him,hence that's the meaning of the saying,then think using best friend and liking and wanting something she has (Best Friend) I would think this situation over more....
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
This is definitively just one of those crappy situations, but in the long run you have to remember that to keep the word BEST in front of friend , you have to do your best to be a friend to her, no matter what. Friends are something your not going to want to jeopardize, especially like this. These are one of those things that really cuts deep with people and can be UNFORGIVABLE. Ask yourself, if she liked my boyfriend what would she do? And would he be worth hurting our relationship and her? If he likes you too, then hes probably not even a right choice for her, but I'm going to say try to get your mind off him by finding someone else, if they break up give it a little time and then talk to her about your feelings for him, (now; not when she was with him)and make sure she gives you her consent before you go on that first date to the movies
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Omer Butt answered
Evaluate the reasons for which you like him. Make sure Reasons don't include Good looks, Handsome, Soft Voice and especially Too nice to be true attitude etc etc. Remember when Obsession comes in face of Love and Likeness, It is sending you the most lethal attack and you must avoid it by many ways!
First of all find those habits in him that you like the least. You can talk to him, hand out with him when your friend is around or not but only to explore those bad habits that you find intolerable.
And, If his behavior is like TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE, then remember that such men keep that attitude till they get what they want and will never compromise in your tough situation.
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There are many more beautiful and handsome men, look around, go out partying, Watch loads'n'lots of comedy shows like FRIENDS etc.
Take a HUG from Life!

Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I suggest that you try not to let it show I am in the same boat and I hate it because he is the best to her always waiting and helping her out but I would never risk losing her as a friend because she is the best ever and even though I really like him I find the saying boys come and go but friends stay forever to be true no mater how much you want the guy so yeah it's hard but most girls go through it at some point so it's normal and this is the time when you see how good of friends you are and how close you find out what pain and heart throb you are willing to go through for her you find out if you really are a true friend.
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Anonymous answered
I think you should wait until they break up. It will be the rite thing to do. If you two were to be together they will break up and you two will work up. But for rite now just lay low and wait and see.it's not always the boy you think is for you is for you.
Anonymous Anonymousus Profile
I'm having the exact same situation in here. Can't tell they're my best friends, since I've moved 5 months ago in the school, and I didn't know either of them, but they do have a pretty relationship, for 1 year or so, but it's pretty shaky,it seems, although it's not obvious. Them breaking up would turn people against him,socially speaking, at least, and me entering between her and him,which I truly adore and it seems he thinks he's feeling the same about me, doesn't seem the solution,but I can't look away, either, when I see both of them. She doesn't deserve him. Social ranks.
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Anonymous answered
I'm in the same boat I luv him so much but my best m8 is everything to me I think id rather have him n iv told him n he said ok and left it at tht now we talk a lot more but I still don't know what to do ?!!! X
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Anonymous answered
My best friend is the best thing to me but her bf just drives me crazy. He is so sweet and careing. But my boyfriend is the same. Her bf kisses my forehead everytime we see eachother and gives me long hugs and he is always there for me. But he is practically married to my best friend. He loves her too much!!!!!!
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Anonymous answered
I know what you mean because I'm in the same situation. I like to flirt with him when shes not around. You can also say something to him but you have to be careful of what you do. Good luck with everything and I hoped that I helped out.
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Anonymous answered
I'm in the same situation. But, I decided to tell him. He won't get mad..and explain to your friend that you like him.
H H Profile
H H answered
Remember that your friend is your friend, and that if the shoe was on the other foot you would not want her to do the same thing to you.
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Anonymous answered
Maybe you should try to avoid him  even though he his probably always near you or you could try to get a boyfriend someone who takes your mind off of things and listens to your ideas and feelings.
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Ashton Kirkman answered
Only tell him if this guy means more to you than your friendship, and even then, is it going to be worth everyone thinking of you as "that sassy little boyfriend stealer?"
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Nooooo ! I'm in the same position about my best friends boyfriend he gives me hints, follows me, makes me laugh, craves my attention , wants to do what I'm doing, gets annoyed if I ignore him! Stay quiet for now ... But if he actually tells ure tell your friend
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I'm currently in the same situation. They're both my best friends and I talk to them all the time (we all live in different states), even though its currently summer vacation. I'm hoping, however, that this summer will help me get over him. I advise you not to tell either one. It might make it awkward with your one friend (girl) and your other friend (guy) might avoid you. I can't exactly give you an answer because I'm still trying to figure it out myself. I wish you luck!
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H H answered
If that is your friend it would be wrong of you to tell him now that you like him. You said it yourself, you have liked him for ages, which means you have had ages to express to  him how you were feeling. You let the opportunity walk away, and now that your friend has taken thee initiative you cannot take this time to step in and speak your peace. You cannot try and take away their happiness because you were not vocal about what you really wanted.
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Anonymous answered
I'm in exactly the same situation ! Just try not to think about it that much. You could also try and get a boyfriend to take your mind off it. Hope this helped x
ma lips r sealed Profile
I'm in da same situation too.. =( I am having  a crush 4 my best friends boyfriend since grade 4......n I stll hv it...I'm crushing on hm 4 over 6yrs bt I don't wanne tell it it 2 him coz he luvs her sooooooo much and also because I don't wanne loose ma bst frnd.....=( bt I luuuuv him soo much....itz jst not looks abt him hez soooooo different......he even composes songs 4 her......

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