Hi again,
I'm going to tell quote a line from the book I mentioned before. You can take it or leave it or do some soul searching with it. Questions of Love are never easy.. That's why it breaks your heart. SO from the book & I'm paraphrasing.. " when it comes to relationships there are dog people and cat people, If you want a Dog and you buy a cat you will never be happy. The cat will never act like a dog, and both you and the cat will suffer from being unhappy.. You have 2 choices.. If you bought the cat instead of the dog you can learn to accept that the cat is a cat and make the best of it but still want a dog.. Or you can wait and hold out for a dog. This goes for relationships - If there is something you really hate about the person.. You have 2 choices.. Learn to live w/ being unhappy, because to change the persons behavior is to say YOU are not REALLY what I wanted. OR you can make the hard choice and say.. I can't live with this and you can't live without it so We wont make each other happy. See the problem is as soon as we start thinking in terms of what needs to change in our partner for us to be happy than we should realize that is an alarm going off saying Maybe this isn't the right choice. If I have to be someone else to be loved or make my partner happy.. Than I would prefer to be with a partner who wants ME as I am.. And Not who they Think they can make me into.. Understand? It's not easy.. But the wrong choices can be worse in the long run. Neither of you should have to change.. If one of you HAS to change then your already off to a rough start.. OR you could just accept that this is what he likes and he could accept you do not and he can keep that area of his life to himself.. . Just something to think about
I'm going to tell quote a line from the book I mentioned before. You can take it or leave it or do some soul searching with it. Questions of Love are never easy.. That's why it breaks your heart. SO from the book & I'm paraphrasing.. " when it comes to relationships there are dog people and cat people, If you want a Dog and you buy a cat you will never be happy. The cat will never act like a dog, and both you and the cat will suffer from being unhappy.. You have 2 choices.. If you bought the cat instead of the dog you can learn to accept that the cat is a cat and make the best of it but still want a dog.. Or you can wait and hold out for a dog. This goes for relationships - If there is something you really hate about the person.. You have 2 choices.. Learn to live w/ being unhappy, because to change the persons behavior is to say YOU are not REALLY what I wanted. OR you can make the hard choice and say.. I can't live with this and you can't live without it so We wont make each other happy. See the problem is as soon as we start thinking in terms of what needs to change in our partner for us to be happy than we should realize that is an alarm going off saying Maybe this isn't the right choice. If I have to be someone else to be loved or make my partner happy.. Than I would prefer to be with a partner who wants ME as I am.. And Not who they Think they can make me into.. Understand? It's not easy.. But the wrong choices can be worse in the long run. Neither of you should have to change.. If one of you HAS to change then your already off to a rough start.. OR you could just accept that this is what he likes and he could accept you do not and he can keep that area of his life to himself.. . Just something to think about