Yo Kass answered
I get that coming out of a relationship can be difficult, no matter what the circumstances are.
In fact, if there's violence involved, then there's even more reason to feel confused.
My suggestion is that you're going to need to work hard to get over him - having feelings for someone who has tried to kill you is just plain dangerous!
How to get over a violent ex
You won't believe how many women struggle to end their feelings for a violent man.
To people on the outside, it might seem like some sort of crazy, sadistic weakness - but the truth is that most women would struggle under such trying circumstances.
My opinion is that, as women, we can't help loving our man no matter how bad he is for us. It's simply the way we're wired!
Violent boyfriends
Let me tell you a little story that might help you come to terms with what you're feeling:
One of my best friends was involved in an abusive relationship. The violence had been going on for a few years, but for some reason she just kept going back to him.
It used to bring me to tears seeing what he was doing to her; but no matter how hard he beat her, she still came back.
She only managed to break away from him after he stabbed her in the leg with one of her stilettos!
Even to this day, she still talks about their relationship as if he was some sort of gentlemen with a slight temper (when in actual fact he was a psychopath!).
There's no easy way to get over a guy. That is the truth. But what you can do is surround yourself with support and move on:
In fact, if there's violence involved, then there's even more reason to feel confused.
My suggestion is that you're going to need to work hard to get over him - having feelings for someone who has tried to kill you is just plain dangerous!
How to get over a violent ex
You won't believe how many women struggle to end their feelings for a violent man.
To people on the outside, it might seem like some sort of crazy, sadistic weakness - but the truth is that most women would struggle under such trying circumstances.
My opinion is that, as women, we can't help loving our man no matter how bad he is for us. It's simply the way we're wired!
Violent boyfriends
Let me tell you a little story that might help you come to terms with what you're feeling:
One of my best friends was involved in an abusive relationship. The violence had been going on for a few years, but for some reason she just kept going back to him.
It used to bring me to tears seeing what he was doing to her; but no matter how hard he beat her, she still came back.
She only managed to break away from him after he stabbed her in the leg with one of her stilettos!
Even to this day, she still talks about their relationship as if he was some sort of gentlemen with a slight temper (when in actual fact he was a psychopath!).
There's no easy way to get over a guy. That is the truth. But what you can do is surround yourself with support and move on:
- Get your circle of girl friends around you
- Don't be afraid to reach out to domestic violence support group
- Don't wallow in the past, move on and look for a guy who really deserves you
