adam odering answered Anonymous' question 6/25/2012 My Abusive Ex-Boyfriend Is In Jail Because He Tried To Kill Me. It's Been A Few Weeks Now, And I'm Starting To Miss Him. How Can I Get Over Him? What I recommend is some self defence classes! It will clear your mind and, also, if you come into another relationship similar to the last then you'll at least be able to protect yourself. Get up, stand up, stand up for your rights!