Well it sounds like you're asking two entirely different questions. First, not all guys will break up with their girlfriend over a little argument. And those that do probably have a bad temper and will soon regret doing so, because that is not the way to handle the situation.
It seems to me that your boyfriend broke up with you because of constant bickering caused by your insecurity and the demanding ways you developed to curb that insecurity. The only thing you can do is try to talk to him. If he feels you won't change then he won't want to come back. You need to be willing to make a change, and tell him why you were acting the way you were. If he is willing to try again you both need to work together on building up your self esteem and trust in each other. Good luck.
It seems to me that your boyfriend broke up with you because of constant bickering caused by your insecurity and the demanding ways you developed to curb that insecurity. The only thing you can do is try to talk to him. If he feels you won't change then he won't want to come back. You need to be willing to make a change, and tell him why you were acting the way you were. If he is willing to try again you both need to work together on building up your self esteem and trust in each other. Good luck.