What is the best way to get through a break up with a guy that you were totally in love with?

Unfortunately it is always going to be very difficult to get over someone that you were in love with, as feelings do not just disappear overnight. The best advice is to not expect to forget about your past relationship within a week or two as it will likely stay with you for a lot longer.

• Minimize the pain

Break ups are always tough, especially when you do not want to break up. Memories and feelings can stay with you for a long time and can be upsetting but it is important to minimize the pain you are probably feeling as soon as possible.

It is completely normal to literally feel a heavy painful ache throughout your whole body which can make you feel sick, empty, sad, depressed, exhausted, down and generally ill. This feeling is the most difficult to get rid of and I am afraid only time can truly alleviate this pain.

To help get through the days until eventually the pain subsides, keep busy and do lots of fun things. Spend time with your girl friends doing random things like ice skating, swimming, tennis, spa days, road trips, going to amusement parks, shopping etc. This should help keep your mind off what has happened and allow you to subtly get rid of the pain.

• Don't expect to forget

A lot of people don't consider being over a relationship until they have completely forgotten about it; this isn't necessarily the case. If you were together for a long time, it is likely that a lot of your experiences during this time will have been shared with your ex. It is possible that you may never forget him due to significant times spent with him but this does not mean you haven't got over the relationship.

The best remedy for a broken heart is to be confident in your ability to be happy without a man in your life. Have fun and enjoy being single with your friends; show him that you don't need him to be happy.