Lucy Burroughs answered
Personally, I think that the only time a break-up letter is really acceptable is if you write one in addition to breaking up with your boyfriend or girlfriend in person.
Writing a break-up letter is emotionally selfish; yes, it gives you the chance to explain everything and get your point across, but it doesn't give your boyfriend or girlfriend the opportunity to do the same. This can leave them feeling frustrated, angry, confused and bitter.
How To Break Up With Your Boyfriend Or Girlfriend
The best way to end a relationship is in person; if you're breaking up with somebody, the least you can do is show the courage to tell them yourself. This can be difficult because you don't want to hurt their feelings, but they'll be more hurt if you end the relationship via text, email or by letter.
Top Tips For A Friendly, Amicable Break-Up
- Talk in person, in private.
- Be honest; you owe them the truth.
- Try not to justify the break-up by accusing them of things.
- Let your boyfriend/girlfriend talk. If they want to ask questions, answer as truthfully as you can.
- If they're upset, stay with them and talk about it. Don't rush.
- If you're sure you want to break up with them, don't change your mind. It can be difficult to see them upset, but you'll only cause them more pain in the long run if you end up staying with them.
- Break-ups can be emotional for both parties; if you end up crying, this is natural. It doesn't, however, mean that you're making the wrong decision. If you don't feel the same way about them then you're doing the right thing.
- Don't seek out an argument as an excuse to break up. That's selfish and cowardly.
- Let them know that they can still contact you if they need to talk. They might not want to, but make sure they won't be dealing with this alone.
