How Do You Become More Confident Around Boys?

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Annomoyous Profile
Annomoyous answered
1. If you catch him looking at you give him a playful smile.
2. Wearing too much make-up makes guys think of you as trying to hard and makes you seem unattractive.
3. If you brush past him or you're legs touch don't move yours and see if his stays too.(He might like you if this happens.)
4. Make sure you are clean and have fresh breath. Carry mints or gum in your locker or bag just in case.
5. Don't look nervous, always make yourself seem confident because this shows the guy can act natural around you.
6. Don't over flirt or you will seem like a player.
7. Don't flirt with a player or you'll end up getting hurt.
8.Start a small conversation and try not to get into ackward silences.
9. Point your legs toward him. (this shows him you want to be closer to him.)
10. DON"T EVER change for a guy. Chances are he'll start liking you for the person you're trying to be not who you really are.
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Anonymous answered
While talking to a boy don't stand with you arms crossed this makes you look shy or bored. Boys like confident girls. Look into his eyes and flutter your eyelashes a little bit, don't do it fast or he might think you are weird. Most girls voice goes higher while talking to boys and they twiddle with their hair, they are 2 good techniques. Even if you really like this boy don't follow him like a puppy he will get annoyed so when walking past him give him a sweet smile this way he will think you are cute and will be attracted to you. One more thing, don't wear to much make-up if you are going to meet a boy. This will make you look fake and a bit slutty.
I hope this helps :)
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Anonymous answered
These r some things boys find totally annoying:
1. When girls follow them around and r to clingy! But boys do love it when girls r touchy just don't b to touchy!
2. When girls r all like "oh my god no way like totally"
3. When chicks r on the fone CONSTANTLY
4. When girls sit with there legs open
5. When girls r always adjusting the boops or there bra
6. When girls have a potty outh and cuss all the time
7. When girls lead them on
8. If you like a boy, don't tell your friend to ask him out for you!! Boys hate tht! Ask him URSELF!
9. Don't WEAR TO MUCH MAKEUP!!!!
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Anonymous answered
Be yourself no guy/girl likes somebody who their not. Don't over flirt and don't ask a lot of yes/no questions. You could do questions like "do you have a dog?" "What kind of breed is it?" Wear clean and good smelling clothes. (don't over use the perfume) If you have a lot of classes where you sit by him, ask him to help you on a problem you don't get.
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Anonymous answered
You need to be subtle, but don't under flirt.  Possibly brush against his shoulder in the hall way. If you don't know him very well, then you don't want to make a wrong impression. Get to know him first and figure out what kind of stuff he likes!  Try sitting next to him in class. Don't MAKE IT TO OBVIOUS THAT YOU LIKE HIM until you know he likes you to!!! Don't play footsies with him and don't try to hold his hand unless your dating him.  don't act like your craving attention, but don't be shy either!!!
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Anonymous answered
Tease him a bit. Give him a sweet smile. Don't smile like a scary person though that will scare him away.oh, and if you have braces check your teeth Constantly trust me it's sooooo embarrassing to be with your crush all day and to have something in my teeth,never if you don't have braces check there is nothing wrong with checking. Give him a playful,gentle push if you are friends. Laugh when he says something make it a sweet laugh, then smile at him while you smile look at him then look away or talk to a nearby friend about something you and your crush have in common. Good luck :) I hope this helps :D
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Anonymous answered
Don't be shy, or mean.  You may be just "playing hard to get" but trust me. That starts fight. Think of him as your bestfriend not someone you like. Things will be much easier. Coming from someone with a lot of experience :)
Good luck sweetie x
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Mouse or Nette answered
I think sometimes girls/women forget that men and boys can be just as self conscious as we are and just as shy and confused.  He may seem to be hot and cold due to his own confusion.  It is so hard sometimes to try and be yourself when you are also thinking.. Does he like me.. Do I have spinach in my teeth.. Is he looking at me.. Should I just shut up.. ?    I think what helped me when I was younger was to stop thinking of the guy as someone I liked and just think of them as someone I was already friends with.  The biggest secret to talking to people is to get them onto their favorite subject.  For most people this is Themselves.  So when you see him.. Start off with hi and a question about His day or weekend.. Or sport that he's in.. Anything about HIM.. This should make it easier.  once you get info and have a base of Information you will be able to talk to him easier and eventually be comfy enough with each other to see how you really feel. 

Good Luck
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maya gogo commented
HI anonymouse again i have exactly the same opinion with you i think serious to be closely friends please think about it and replay so quick...... good luck
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Anonymous answered
Well I am really shy. And I can chat all day long to some guys online but then when it comes to the real world I can barley say "haay!" but what helps me is bring along a friend who normally can talk to boys and they will start talking then you will be talking, then someday you will be able to do it on your own. I am going to join drama because drama is surpose to  help with confidence. Never wear clothes that you feel uncomfortable in. Love you, love your body. It helps. Good good luck. And if you ever cry over a boy it means his not worth it.

G luck xxxxxxxxxx
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Anonymous answered
You have to talk to him and show off a lil. Tease him. Laugh a lil at something stupid make a romatic guesture like I have band and there is a guy when he plays the guitar I sit next to him and make a lil convo on music or something I know he and I share in common. Guys are perverted but play along a lil some guys like a girl that has a sexy tempting side along with a smart serious side it is a major plus and toally hot make the girls jealous and tempt him make him crave you.
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Anonymous answered
Flirt with him like crazy for about a week, and then the next 3 days, kind of act like it meant nothing and you're hardly interested anymore. Make him want you more than you want him!(:
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Vanessa Moore answered
It does not happen over night. But wouldn't that be the coolest thing ever? =) haha
But really, Confidence is something a person develops gradually first with excepting who they are on the inside and on the outside and by finding out the person who they really are and sticking with it. Not everyone on the world has confidence and it does not mean they're insecure either. Being shy is fine, just learn how to hold you head not too high but don't hang it low either. And why would you want to be more confident around boys? Why not everyone? Why not bosses? And friends? And family? LOL. But, anyways just be yourself. Instead of asking "How do I become more confident around boys?" Ask "Why don't these boys become confident with me?" Let the boys do the talking, and the first one to start a friendship with you. At the end of the day your are you, died or alive. Be yourself and no one else. Stay True to yourself and NEVER climb high mountains for anyone who you know would not do the same for you. Peace and Love.

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Flirting in middle school... Well when I flirt I'm a lil more hyper or a lil more easily freaked... If he is all around other girls I go sit on his lap so he laughs then I stand right by him and give him a lil rob for his shoulders.... But if your shy you just want smile with a lil more flirt with it and maybe go and sit by him and talk for a lil bit... Have fun and remember smile and laugh and be touchy guys love that
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Anonymous answered
Say you were walking down the hall he's right there call is name or tap him on the sholder and keep walking but never look back it's kinda like playing hard to get if he comes up to you and ask you a question walk away act like you don't here him unless he is like right next to you don't walk away answer him also where cute outfits so that you will catch his eye! You haft! To keep him wondering also try NOT to talk to him that much but keep normal I recomened this for xboy friends or it could be for a crush if he is around other girls grab a homework paper and ask him to come here and help you hope I helped!
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Anonymous answered
Be subtle, don't act too desperate. Don't over-flirt, or to the point when you get in trouble. Play around with him by giving him signals you like him, then that you don't to mess with him. MAKE HIM CHASE YOU!
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Linda Walker answered
 Just try to relax! If he knows you are nervous this may make him feel uncomfortable as well. Try to sound genuine. I think they can tell if you are only pretending to be interested about something.  Believe it or not boys get nervous too. If they think you are someone who is easy to talk to and a friend who cares about them as a person, I believe you will have better luck. 
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Anonymous answered
I have a boyfriend so I know them inside out just be your normal self on valentines day give him a valentines card always play with him, and act cool, oh and also try resting your arm on his shoulder.
I am sure he feels the same way, ask him out what harm could it do.
I HOPE THIS HELPS you GOOD LUCK

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Anonymous answered
Just relax around him.
But saying that, I liked a boy for a while id known that he liked me a lot
we talked for ages then went uptown together and we couldnt find anything to talk about and it was awkward all the way through and I had an awful, since then we havent talked and in some ways I'm glad, but I can't find anyone, no one ever goes for me because I'm not outstanding and I'm not very confident so I never get noticed but I try to take my mind off it

my advice

see if you actually like him or whether it would just be awkward
if you do be yourself, don't hold back and go for it

best of luck xx xxx
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Anonymous answered
You only have one life go for it. At one point you never may see him again. Trust me you do not want to have regrets who cares if you get rejected. At least you did it and wont hate yourself for never really knowing his feeling. Plus if he is not the one then later you'll find a hotter guy that will sweep you off your feet even if you think there can't be another soul mate for you. Trust me and take the chance you only have 100 years to live. Be wise. Good luck. Oh and always smile, you never know when it can brighten his day.   :)
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Anonymous answered
Well I have da same problem but I would just like act outgoing  talk about random stuff and if you think you were just talking weird start laughing but not hysterical and say I'm boring you arent I! Then ask him something like so hows your day been! Start like that and then maybe you'll become more confident!

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Anonymous answered
Alright you've probably heard this before. BE YOURSELF.you probably don't want to hold hands, rub his shoulders or anything. Take into consideration that boys get annoyed very easily so don't flirt too much. I would recommend st first to ask about hw. Then just start asking stuff about him. Then if he asks about you. Then your pretty good to go and go from there.
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Anonymous answered
BE YOURSELF!!!!!! Guys hate it when you change yourself because of him, because he might just like you 4 who you r. Flirt with him, but don't overdo it! And don't flirt 2 little or they might get the wrong idea. Be confident guys feel awkward 2 when you send nervous body language or laugh 2 much. If your freind doesn't like him who cares! Only listen to them when its something serious like he's cheating on you. Don't be 2 clingy, if you follow them like a puppy they will get annoyed! Trust me. Good luck!!!!! I hope I helped you.
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Anonymous answered
I feel the same way but I started here. I sent him an email saying let's hangout, then the next day I dressed cute and he approched me, our convo was simple and it worked, we just talked about stuff at school, funny expirences and about myself and himself, and now were going out :D hope this helps and ALWAYS be yourself xoxOoo
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To be more confident in boys, you must think like one. And how does one get into the mind of a guy without creeping him out? Find a group of nice guys and join them. Become one of the guys and you'll be comfortable talking to them in no time. Plus, guys are great friends to have and, unless you're dating one, they're nearly drama-free!
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Anonymous answered
I would say just be yourself.... Guys are just as much nervous as girls. We just know how to not show it a little better but guys do things in order to try to impress girls.
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Anonymous answered
Well let him make the first move n just go for it then wen you have told him how you feel about him then it will bring you closer with him n then it wont be so nerve-wracking wen you ask another boy out n finally be yourself!
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Hana answered
Let your personality shine. The best way to do this is forget your trying to impress him. Treat him like a friend and let your relationship develop from there on.

PTL x
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Anonymous answered
Omgg this was just like when I starting to fancy my boyfriend, honest if you send the signal he will respond! We would be a match made in heaven but now we find so much to do/talk about. To be honest its not where you come from, who you are its how you feel and if you feel enough for him you'll get far. Because I didn't think he loved me and now its been 9 months and if he didn't he would of been with me this long. You might as well get right in their before he's gone!
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Anonymous answered
You should just be yourself and treat him as a friend, your personality will then show and he'll realise what hes missing xx
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Ginny Lovejoy answered
Ok so there's this guy and I think he likes me but it's hard to tell. My friend told me that pretty much every time I turn around he looks over at me. And when he does something funny he will look at me to make sure I'm looking at him. And I don't know if he likes me what should I do
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Anonymous answered
Welll theres this guy and I really like him n I don't know if he likes me so could you help me? But this is wht he does.   Well when I wlk into class he watches me n befor the teacher   moved him he woul play with my hair n touch my back a lot! N now tht she moved him he takes my fone from my back pocket n goes through it n when he hugs me he wont let me go I don't know if he likes me plz help me
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Anonymous answered
Play around a lil but not to much never get him in trouble because then he wont like you
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Anonymous answered
All you have to do is be yourself. Give him a wink or two. Be touchy.= ;; they love that....
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Anonymous answered
I'm really good friends with this guy in my class, but he doesn't like anyone at the moment, so how should I casually let him know that I like him?
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Anonymous answered
******there is a boy at school who sits next to me in class. He is always nice to me. He always makes sure that nothing is wrong with me. And he is always touching my back and shoulders. I kinda like him. Does he like me?******
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Nairobi Waiters answered
If he is shy then touch his shoulder and tell him its the first sign of rape then laugh to let him no your interested

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