My Husband Is Extremely Jealous. I Don't Get To See My Kids Or Grandkids Often Because He Wants All The Attention. He Gets Angry When They Are Here And Acts Like A Two Year Old! What Can I Do?

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Anonymous answered
That sounds like your husband is not a very mature guy. Why in the world would someone ever try and come between you and your children. You have some thinking to do. Remember that you are grown and you decide what you do and where you go. You deserve the best of both worlds. You need a supportive husband not a controlling one. Marriages are supposed to be partnerships not dictatorships. You should be able to have your children over and all have a great time together. Your husband should cherish your children as much as you do even if they are step children to him. And if that is our of the question then he should at least love you enough to not ever deprive you of seeing your children. Talk to him and if he is not willing to budge just keep in mind that most people can not and will not change and your children no matter how old they are always need their mother in their lives. I hope it all work out for you!
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Cali commented
I agree. It sounds like the exact same thing that is happening to me and I just am emotionally run over. My husband acts fine, then if one of my children appear (and they are in their 20's) he strarts ranting and raving. In front of people, it doesn't matter. I have decided I can't take anymore of this verbal abuse and my children definately do not need it. It doesn't matter how old they are.
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Sounds like your husband is a control freak. Have you tried talking to him about this? If he truly has a controlling personality then talking may not help but it is worth a shot. I've been in your shoes with my first husband. It was no picnic. I tried and tried to hang in there but in the end I realized that he was who he was and "I" could do nothing to change him. Guess it is a matter of do you want to live the rest of your life this way if he can not change. If you went against his wants, would he hit you? I hope the best for you and don't forget it is your life and you have a right to live it. Does he allow you to tell him what he can do, whom he can have visit him or where he can go? I know this sounds harsh but I am not sorry for trying to help you to have a better life. Sometimes we make bad choices in life but we have the right to try to change the situations we get ourselves into. May God Bless You.
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Must be a Bama thing. My husband is the same way, except I don't have any children of my own just nieces & nephews that are a HUGE part of my life. It started out with him being jealous of friends....now I can't even go see my mother without it being a huge ordeal. He acts so childish! He starts the stupidest fights for nothing.
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Maybe your husband is acting like mine scare of loosing you because you still got it. He scared of being alone. You are happy in your marriage. He is scared, but men are taught to be in control, he can't control his life right now. When kids were home if you did not agree there were the kids were you going, but now it's you and him, He has to try harder. Men are like women He hears the stories of the family all grown the wife leaves too like a man can. You still make him happy but his scared of loosing you. Do some of his favorite things just you and him. To him it's speacil time. This is the hard part talk about the good things between you and him. Ask him about him his family growing up let him talk about him. He might drop a key on how to unwind the tenion adding to your bond. For us women the key word is time. When women let the kids go we visit them and want time alone for ourselves for once. He is thinking I got my wife back for me only. Take it slow. He won't adment being scared or needed you because men are men.
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Well all I can say is, and you take it? How long has it been going on? Have you ever stood up to him?  You must be terrified of him, get help now.
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I did not realize this happened to other people. I am in the middle of a divorce right now for this very reason.  He is very controlling and hates my kids from a previous marriage.

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