Well unless she has left you on a street corner with two yonger children. Give her a break!
Being a mom is a tough job, someday you may experience this.
Well unless she has left you on a street corner with two yonger children. Give her a break!
Being a mom is a tough job, someday you may experience this.
Unless she is beating you or neglecting you, you suck it up until you are 18. Then you find a job that pays a fair amount and you move out. Actually find a job as soon as you can. You will need to save every cent you get because it takes a lot of money to move out. You have to pay the first month's rent, and a deposit. You will need deposit money for all your utilities as well. Things like electric, water and sewer. Oh and if she is paying for your phone you will need money for that as well.
I don't know how old you are but NEVER let your children know that. It will give them permission to hate you someday.
Surely your mom has some redeeming qualities...concentrate on those
I assume she must be doing some things that really frustrate you. Give us some examples and perhaps we can help.
Not sure what country you are in, in the UK you can move out of home into social housing if your parent supports the move, if not then speak to your doctor and go online as there are support groups who may be able to give you advice and help if you have a toxic parent
Sure am glad you hate your mom, I'm glad I'm not alone! I hated it when she stopped beating me with an extension cord grabbed in the middle so I could fee the effect of both plugs could hit me equally. I hated when she stopped telling me I wasn't wanted, and that I was lucky that the coat hanger didn't work when she tried to abort me! I hated when she stopped telling me I was stupid each and every day. I hated when she told me I didn't have to kneel bare knee on dry split peas because after an hour she felt I was repentant enough. I hated her when she told me I would never amount to anything better than a trash colloector, especially when they started riding on the the back of the trucks because I'd surely fall off because I was too stupid to hang on! I hated her because she sold our home, didn't tell me anything about it and when I came home from my last day of school she and my father hired movers and when I came home the house was and found empty, locks were changed and my stuff was in a box in the driveway. Oh, I heard she wanted me to drive the moving truck, but changed her mind! I hated the fact that she didn't bother giving me her new address!
I could go on for paragraph after paragraph but I might make you think that the reasons you hate your mom were trivial at best! I hated it when I stopped hearing these things because there I was, no job, no place to live, no family, no money. I hated that woman every day of my life, if your mom was this bad or worse then I guess you are entitled to hate your mom! If you can't claim to be treated this bad, maybe it is time for you to rethink of what your opinion of your mom is!
Put yourself in her shoes
Hello! You better have valid reasons for anyone to take you seriously! Right now, this simply sounds like a typical brat outburst in public! If your mum did something wrong, start by having a conversation and tell her how you feel about the situation. Otherwise, you can seek help from other family members. All the best!
Learn to love.
As stated above, you can't get out unless you have someone that you can move in with - with parental permission because you're still a minor - or you're 18.
Seriously, many of us here on Blurtit have been abused, have had terrible childhoods and have endured some horrific abuse. No one wants you to stay in this environment.
However, you're stuck right now. She can call you all the names in the book but you know your worth. Ignore it. Leave the room, if possible. Journal your feelings if you need to. You have two more years to get through.
Start making some goals for yourself. Stay in school - have a plan for what your profession will be when you get out on your own. Are you going to college / trade school / community college? How will you support yourself when you move out? Do you see yourself in an apartment by yourself or sharing with a roommate?
Each day gets your closer to the day when you are able to be on your own. Don't waste this time - put it to good use. I know that all you can think about is getting away from her but you need to plan this out.
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