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Boyfriend says he loves me. However, He complains about me, he starts and escalates arguments. Do I have the right to tell him, I can't continue being in relationship if this continues. Is effecting my health?

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Cookie Roma Profile
Cookie Roma answered

Do you have the "right"?  So sweetie, please.  Of course you have the right!!  Don't let anyone take away your power.  You deserve to be treated really well and should never think you must take accept being treated badly. 

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S L jamen
S L jamen commented
Not easy to break up. Three years, our whole lives, friends, are entwined, but we don't live together, plus I am having health problems, but not a disability, just feel bad some days. Feel I can't go, but can't stay.
S L jamen
S L jamen commented
Not easy to break up. Three years, our whole lives, friends, are entwined, but we don't live together, plus I am having health problems, but not a disability, just feel bad some days. Feel I can't go, but can't stay.
Firstname Refreshme lastname Profile

Of course you do. Sometimes men don't believe that their women will break up with them. Fire off a warning shot by leaving him for an established amount of time so he can think about things and realize that he should treat you better.

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Darik Majoren answered

Tell him he needs to find more positive things to bring up rather then negative things. You are WHO you are . . . Wanting to change some things about you means he doesn't love ALL of you.

I've been married 27 years . . Do I want to change things about my wife? If you think about that question, then the answer SHOULD be no . . . All of those things . . The good and what we PERCIEVE as bad is what makes up the person we love . . To alter or negate one, changes that person we love into our own creation and not an individual.

Oh and argue you will . . . So don't be afraid of augments unless they lead to verbal or physical abuse. Healthy argumentss allow both parties to express how they feel and their opinion.

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PJ Stein answered

First off, and this is very important to remember...

YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO END ANY RELATIONSHIP YOU ARE IN FOR ANY REASON YOU WANT.

As for this relationship, not only can you leave, you most definiyely need to leave. He is showing the early signs of an abuser. You should not just leave, but you should run.

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