Hypothetically Speaking: If A Minor Child Impregnates A Young Girl And She Plans On Keeping Said Child. Should His Parents Be Responsible For Paying Child Support For The Baby Until The Father Of The Child Reaches The Age Of Majority?

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Janet Simmons Profile
Janet Simmons answered
Hypothetically...both parents of the child should share equally the expense and the responsibility of caring for and raising the child.  With that said, I don't think there is a grandparent out there that wouldn't lend a helping hand when needed by their children or grandchildren if they were able.  
I think it VERY important that the child be raised where they are loved and nurtured....regardless of who bears the greater burden of said childs' care.  That child had no say in it's being conceived...why should it pay the price of the mistakes of the parents.  I know all about the dead beat dads.....my niece had the misfortune of having one.  I helped my sister with money and "stuff" when I could thru her 2nd birthday.....when my sister married and she was adopted and very well taken care of and loved by him!  Who lost......the idiot of a deadbeat dad!!!!  NOW, he wants back in her life....when before....he had no desire to know her.  She's is beautiful, she if a glorious gift, and I love her dearly!!!!!
Mati green Profile
Mati green answered
No. The boy's parents should NOT be held responsible for the child support.... However, the boy SHOULD. Since he's a minor and can't pay support yet, then he will have a debt growing until he can start paying.. That way he's responsible for all 18 years of support... Even if the mother has to wait several years until she actually gets it. I also think the boy and his parents need to be IN that child's life... And contribute on the side as they can afford.
John Profile
John answered
Hypothetically, I would say neither unless the parents of the children decided to keep the baby and take care of it...otherwise I would say they should share the cost of the birth and then put the baby up for adoption....
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John
John commented
Hypo- then as the parents they should take care of the baby whether or not the other parents did or not ,while explaining to the 2 children they will pay back every dime used to support their child, at at the soonest possible date they would have to get jobs to support their own child....because if they were not taught the responsibility of what they had done in the first place they would likely never learn....this is what happens when God/the bible is thrown out of society....you asked
John
John commented
Since i can't put all i want to say on here....this is what happens when society steps in ,in most cases and decides it's okay to have disposable children (abortions)..and then the children see they have no responsibility for their own acts(simply ) because mans law has made ways to avoid responsibility for a persons actions even if it harms the others.(spiritually,physically,monitarily).this explains it better than i can say-"my children will suffer for lack of knowledge"...
NASSY NASCARNUT
NASSY NASCARNUT commented
Very nicely put, as always nomad, thank you sweetie.....♥nassy
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Pamela Krueger answered
My daughter got pregnant when she was 16.  She had the child, lived at home until she was 18 and basically became an adult overnight.  She didn't shirk her responsibility of being a mom, she got up every night for the feedings, etc.  She went to medical assistant school so that when she turned 18, she moved out on her own and managed pretty well.  Unless you emancipate your child who is under 18, you are responsible for them and can't get government assistance.  I'm glad she kept her baby, didn't give him up for adoptation or have an abortion because he is now 20 years old and I can't imagine not having him as my grandson.  The dad was a "deadbeat" guy who we didn't even want to try getting child support from HIS parents because we didn't want him to have any rights to the child.
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NASSY NASCARNUT
NASSY NASCARNUT commented
Let me know how that turns out;ok sweetie?
Pamela Krueger
Pamela Krueger commented
My daughter is now 36, married to a wonderful man and has two more boys. The one thing she always thanks me for (that makes me cry..boohoo) is that I NEVER said to her, "I told you so"....
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I think it depends on how old the child is. If he is old enough to get a job, I think that he should be responsible for working for the baby. The grandparents should not be held responsible for the care of the child unless they so choose to be. But, given that the child is of their own flesh and blood, shouldn't they feel at least partially responsible? Totally understandable if they don't, though...
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RUTHIE answered
I think the child support should be split between the 2 families until the father reaches the age of 18 and then he should take over.

Of course, probably the best thing would be for the baby to be given up for adoption.  I don't think any good can come from babies raising babies.  They both lose in the long run.
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NASSY NASCARNUT
NASSY NASCARNUT commented
This baby raised one and he & I are both just dandy...the one that lost was his deadbeat dad..lol..Thank you sweetie. ♥Nassy
ASHLEY JACKSON
ASHLEY JACKSON commented
Some "babies" do a better job raisng babies than grown ass adults do. I JUST turned16 when i got pregnant. Me and my bf both worked our hind ends off, had our own place to live, pay bills, and take care of our child. On the other hand, my sister had a 2 year old and a 9 month old, and gave them both up to her stepmother. & last september had another one that her new mother in law has custody of. {might i add that my sister is 25} i think ive done a hell of a better job than some adults do. (:
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Anonymous answered
Gee this hypothetical question is difficult to answer.  I think the baby and the girl will  get support from her parents and from the govt until the boy can be made to pay for child support.  But what happens if the boy does not like to work or is not capable of getting a job yet?  Or what if he simply refused to pay child support?  The more I think of the answer to this question, the more questions come up.
carrie Profile
carrie answered
Geez nas. Legally, morally, ethically? All of the above? If you are old enough to impregnate someone, then you are old enough to support a child. I believe (and I could be wrong or it could differ state by state) that if the girl went on public assistance that the gov't would go after the father of the baby, regardless of the age. That being said, I think both sets of grandparents should help to support the baby until the parents of the baby have finished high school. At that point, there are enough programs which the girl can avail herself of if she wishes to continue her education and take care of the baby on her own. I will say that like you, I managed without any help from my oldest daughter's father or his family. But I did have a lot of help from my folks.
Jim Witness Protection Profile
If I was the father of the young girl in question, the father of the baby would not reach the age of majority. In fact, his time on earth would probably end within the next hour of me finding out.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Hmmmm. Tough one.  But in my opinion, and since each set of parents are responsible for teaching their children about "the birds and bees", I think may be both sets of parents should be responsible for paying child support until the boy comes of age to pay child support on his own.  Speaking as a parent myself, if this had happened to either of my children, I wouldn't put the entire burden on the boy's parents.  Both kids consented to having intercourse; both families should be responsible.  This will accomplish many things: The child will be cared for, there won't be any heavy financial burden on the boy's parents alone, there shouldn't be any resentment about financial responsibility.  This will also be good for the unborn babe; when he/she comes into the world and is old enough to understand, he/she will see that everyone cooperated in the baby's care...didn't just shove if off on one set of grandparents or the other.  If the boy's parents are the only ones held responsible, I can see only trouble.  Everything from withholding visits with the girl's parents, to law suits. If everyone shares the responsibility, I see only a win-win situation.  Hope this helps.   Blessed be.
Alan Profile
Alan answered
The Parents may have failed In my opinion to educate the boy in sexual matters. May have let him run too loose. Not minding where he is or what he is doing. Did they talk about girls and respect.

Who knows, Its all Hypothetically Speaking innit lol


(Hope this settles you down again, have a wee warm milk drink xxx)
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NASSY NASCARNUT
NASSY NASCARNUT commented
Pls explain "the boys parents failed"...♥Nassy
Alan
Alan commented
The Parents may have failed to educate the boy in sexual matters. May have let him run too loose. Not minding where he is or what he is doing. Did they talk about girls and respect.

Who knows, Its all Hypothetically Speaking innit lol
(Hope this settles you down again, have a wee warm milk drink xxx)
nettie Profile
nettie answered
I don't think it should be a legal thing because most parents help out anyway,buying things for the baby, because lot of times they have baby sales and parents will pick up pampers, baby food, formula etc... So I don't think it should be law across the board...you are in the store you see something the baby can use and you pick it up already, besides it takes two to make a baby and perhaps it was a trap type situation, we know how young girls can be,if she was not raped it surely takes two people...right
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nettie
nettie commented
We all have made mistakes and a child's life should not be put on hold because of the child if they are kids that are go getters and wish to raise this baby,I will watch it if needed while you go to school but not while you go party and try to make another one,but will share the responsibility otherwise,would take the baby raise ,what happen to family structure?.......
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Legally no, but morally yes. I would certainly make the gesture. I would even offer to raise the child if they wanted  to allow her freedom to get her education sorted out. But I don't think it would be legally viable to enforce unwilling parents to contribute as this would give them a stronger legal claim after birth. And lets face it, would you be doing the child any favours in the long run if that was their attitude.
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Midnite star answered
I don't think the boys parents should be the sole support to the mother & child, just because the kids were minors when they got preggy. The boy could work part time to help the mother now & if the grandparents choose to be in that baby's life, what's so bad about helping both of them out a bit ? It's not the baby's fault it was conceived earlier than planned for. Why punish it ?
Most grandparents can afford to chip in for some diapers & clothing for a baby...If they're going to love it the rest of their lives, I think they should contribute something to help those 2 & baby, along. Turning 18 or not, shouldn't make a difference. Most of us can all use a little help when we're starting out, anyway. And...we ALL make mistakes !!
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Yea? I think that they should be there for the baby because that is still part of the baby life.
Jacquelyn Mathis Profile
I think that both parents should do this, but more of his parents than hers. She is going to be the one taking care of the baby most likely. That or, they should adopt the baby out. Just a thought.
ASHLEY JACKSON Profile
ASHLEY JACKSON answered
Well, I don't think the grandparents should be held responsible. It is totally the kids fault. How old is this guy anyways? If hes old enough to have sex, hes old enough to take care of a kid. And even if he should choose not to, his parents should not be made to pay for his mistake. I think if he is at least of working age and cares, he should at least put forth some money and time with his child, reduardless of the courts being invollved or him being a minor. But if he should choose not to, the mother could do it on her own. It would be hard, but possible. I'm sure she would have help from her family anyways. -I'm not dsaying the father shouldnt help, because he should do the responsible thing- whether or not the parents talked to him about sex or not, its pretty much a duhh to wear a condom. Everone knows how babies get here.
but as for the girl deciding to keep the child, its pretty much trapping the guy. I think before she decides anything she should have at least talked to the father to let him know whats going on.

if I was in this position, I knoe that I would have plentyy of help from my family. I know that if I decided to keep a child even though the father didnt, I would be solely responsible for the baby. I wouldnt force anyone to pay, but I would at least hope that the father would take part in the child life... If not I think I would force the issue.

but luckily I have a boyfriend who was there for me the whole time, and accepted the responsibility.
Nikia Clarke Profile
Nikia Clarke answered
 Well, as a Mother of three girls I,live with the constant  fear of some little boys ween er doing the "mambo" or worse the "chicken noodle soup" in or around my daughters vessel of purity....So excuse me while I really gather my rational thoughts on this subject.

 Look if some young kid "HELPED" one of my girls get pregnant and WE meaning my child and I and if the other family is willing and decided that we will give this LIFE not yet born a chance at a life,then all are responsible

 If your kid was playing baseball outside my window and that same window was broken due to act of YOUR KID PLAYING BALL,then YOU meaning the Parent/s are responsible for the compensation of the repair of the window....(Right)

Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
The minor would probably die from it because her hips aren't fully developed so the baby would not be able to push through unless it it like maybe around 16 or 15 I don't know but  it just  depends on the age
Meika Sims Profile
Meika Sims answered
Wow, I'm in this situation for real with my daughter right now. In my opinion both sets of "Grandparents responsibility to be financially responsible for the baby!" As I told my daughter (14), her boyfriend (15), and his parents. "As long as they stay in school, take care of the the baby, I have no problem supporting the the "NEEDS of the BABY", but I also told him and his parents that if they want to be apart this babies life they are going to have to help as well. It is not just our responsibility, I will never keep the baby from them, but as I told them if there not helping at least half way, I will get a court order demanding it. It took the 2 of them to make this baby and he is there responsibility to make sure everyone is doing all they can for him.
martha Profile
martha answered
Some one needs to help support that baby- it is not her fault the situation she was born into.  Possibly both sets of parents since both are minors.
Brian Reed Profile
Brian Reed answered
Wholy crap nassy getting a little technical on me here. I would say let the government pay ,that is how we got in this mess anyway. History should repeat itself and etc. Etc.
count yerblessins Profile
Expose the bastards father & child on a mountain somewhere remote Flog the whore and incarcerate all 4 grandparents for failing to provide proper care for their children.2 or 3 well publicised cases should make enough of an example to improve the situation.
Either that or stop whining ;grow up;and act like the adult you were convinced you were when you conceived.
If it wasn't rape you are responsible no one else:if it was your 1st stop should have been the police.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Nah, all three should be aborted: The boy, the girl, and the critter.
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nettie
nettie commented
That answer is so funny,but I can't imagine that you would really do this...hahahahahaha
martha
martha commented
No way! But in today's world- that is how it would go/=.
But there is a wonderful t hing called adoption.

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