My boyfriend is getting married to his ex girlfriend under societal obligations which are difficult to describe.but he still loves me and wants to keep in touch with me.i still love him and really want him in my life,m so confused and depressed?

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Arthur Wright Profile
Arthur Wright answered
Bad reason to get married but understandable and they will always be miserable so marriage wont last long and he will be free again soon
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Stefanie dinovo answered
Well their marriage might not even work because he doesnt rele love her...he loves you...I get tht there is obligations but he doesnt have to be married if he doesnt love her...he could still be in her life nd be with you
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Pearly Chand
Pearly Chand commented
If he himself is not bold enough to take the right decision then what else can i do..you r right..may be he doest rele love me at all..let him do whatever he wanna do with his life..i am no one to interfere again..i have gone through so much pain and suffering because of him..now i've decided to move on and restart my life afresh...and even if he comes back in the future by chance..my self respect will not allow me to take him back again..
Stefanie dinovo
Stefanie dinovo commented
Good for you...hang in there and be strong...i know you will get through....he isnt the one for you if he is with someone else...someone else is planned for you...GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
Pearly Chand
Pearly Chand commented
Thanks dear friend....he is not the one for me definitely..i m surely gonna let him go from my mind and soul...it's just a matter of time...hoping for my special one to come soon...
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Karen answered
The Truth is this guy is marrying someone else. There are no buts, ifs or maybes so the BEST thing that you can do is Let Go. You will be miserable if you continue down this road. I'm sorry to tell you this and I am not wanting to be rude or anything like that; but, life has dealt you a blow. Now pick up the pieces and end it with this guy cause the relationship will only be fruitless and then you will be pulled into HIS drama and HIS child deserves 2 parents who love the baby with NO outside distractions. Raising a child is hard enough and the child did NOTHING wrong.You will find another person and when you do, you will look back and be happy that you dismissed that relationship. Just be Strong NOW and the future will be brighter. Remember to do all things good for yourself. Good luck!!
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Pearly Chand
Pearly Chand commented
Thanks karen...but it's really hard to imagine a life without him around..i've become so emotionally attached to him n it hurts like anything seeing him marrying someone else..my life has come to a standstill nowadays..cant concentrate on anything..seems like the end of my world..he still calls me up and expresses his love for me..says he wont ever be happy with the marriage but not strong enough to cancel it.i dont know what he really wants from me...
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Time to let him go. If he truely loved you, he could never marry and be with anyone BUT you. "Social obligation" makes no sense. His family's honor does not hinge on him marrying someone he isn't in love with, and he should speak to them about this myth. What he SAYS is I love you but I am marrying her. Doesn't make much sense to me.
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Pearly Chand
Pearly Chand commented
Thanks dear friend for your answer...yeah sometimes i think wat u r saying may be right...how could a person marry someone else when he's in love with another...i wont ever be able to do that..sometimes i thought may be i should start going around with some1 else in order to forget him but i cant because i still love him...but y on earth is he still calling me and expressing his love for me?love without commitment..what good it is for?
Karen
Karen commented
You are so right, Pearly. Just ask him to stop calling because you don't need the heartache and PLZ get out there and just find some friends to occupy ur time.
Time heals all wounds.Also please do not et depressed. You are YOUNG only once. He has moved on except HE keeps YOU hangin on. Cut him Loose!!
Pearly Chand
Pearly Chand commented
Yeah u r right karen...tats y i ve changed my phone no.too so that he doesnt call again...he sends me mail also...i ve told him not to contact me again there too...i think i fell for the wrong person who doesn't deserve me at all..i deserve someone who will stand for me through thick and thin,no matter what..i know it will take sometime to get over him since i love him so much.i hope it ends really soon and god give me the strength to start all over again with my life
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Ihab Marzouk answered
Remind him that his marriage to that ex girlfriend will never make him happy because the only thing he wants is you. Ask him "With who do you want to spend the rest of your live?". Remind him that he's got to be careful to make that decision because he doesn't want to regret it for the rest of his life.
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Pearly Chand
Pearly Chand commented
He has already told his ex girlfriend that he loves me and not her and that he doesn't feel anything for her now,but it is her who is forcing him into this marriage.she told him that she wasted much of her time and opportunities because of him and so he must marry her.she also told him that if not now she has full hope that one day or the other she's gonna win his love again.she thinks that marrying him and binding him legally is the only best option.
Ihab Marzouk
Ihab Marzouk commented
Well it seems like you have no choice other than spend only some time with him so you can have the chance to do things you both like together. At least, that's better than nothing. I don't think you should let him go or get over him or... Because you can't just waste this opportunity of having someone who loves you and cares for you. You must fight for your own happiness by no matter what option is allowed.
Ihab Marzouk
Ihab Marzouk commented
But if you feel nothing like that is possible, you should remind yourself that you don't wanna waste your time hurting yourself, you then have a life that's waiting for you live.

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