Separate bank accounts? Sounds like a huge trust issue here.
Husband Doesn't Respect Me But He Doesn't Realize It, And Doesn't Want To Hear About It Either. What Should I Do?
It's really hard to tell you what to do when both sides of the storie aren't lais out if you know what I mean. One how long have you teo been married? And two how long has this been going on? Sometimes age plays a part, and if age isn't the issue then maybe its just that you two aren't on the same page... But what I will say is that you two are married so its good that your trying to work it out. I'll just give you the method I always use when I can't control the situation.....
I just pray to god cause only he truly has all the answers!
He'll show you things that you may be looking past or completely blind to. Pray until you get an answer!
But you also have to believe with all your heart and all your faith or the prayed wont get through...
I just pray to god cause only he truly has all the answers!
He'll show you things that you may be looking past or completely blind to. Pray until you get an answer!
But you also have to believe with all your heart and all your faith or the prayed wont get through...
Suzeorman
I do not believe based on your brief description that trust is the only issue involved.
As there are two side's to every issue this is especially true in any relationship marriage being the most sensitive, it is a disservice to keep this problem under secrecy out of fear of any kind or for any reason, this will become a dungeon and pressure cooker if not fully vetted.
You need to sit down with your husband and tell him that you love and respect him and because you respect him you are concerned about the relationship. If your husband is not interested in airing this problem then I would say you should consider marriage counseling, this is the type of issue that very easily ends marriages if not fully vetted.
I have had two relationships end and in both cases secrecy and lack of respect for the partner resulting in break up before I was married.
As you have indicated large sums of money are involved, you need to sit down and ask him if there is a financial problem you are not aware of and whatever his response is ask him what the money is being held for and why it is in a separate account and if you have access to the funds and if you do not have access to the funds by mutual agreement then you may need an attorney's free initial consult? If he is despondent then you need to be direct and ask him what the money is being held for and do this in the presence of a marriage counselor with documentation from the bank indicating the account and amount of deposit.
Where money is concerned in this economy you must be very careful not to violate the law. There are a number of ways in which if he is misusing the money that your credit rating and other financial matters could be in jeopardy.
I do not believe based on your brief description that trust is the only issue involved.
As there are two side's to every issue this is especially true in any relationship marriage being the most sensitive, it is a disservice to keep this problem under secrecy out of fear of any kind or for any reason, this will become a dungeon and pressure cooker if not fully vetted.
You need to sit down with your husband and tell him that you love and respect him and because you respect him you are concerned about the relationship. If your husband is not interested in airing this problem then I would say you should consider marriage counseling, this is the type of issue that very easily ends marriages if not fully vetted.
I have had two relationships end and in both cases secrecy and lack of respect for the partner resulting in break up before I was married.
As you have indicated large sums of money are involved, you need to sit down and ask him if there is a financial problem you are not aware of and whatever his response is ask him what the money is being held for and why it is in a separate account and if you have access to the funds and if you do not have access to the funds by mutual agreement then you may need an attorney's free initial consult? If he is despondent then you need to be direct and ask him what the money is being held for and do this in the presence of a marriage counselor with documentation from the bank indicating the account and amount of deposit.
Where money is concerned in this economy you must be very careful not to violate the law. There are a number of ways in which if he is misusing the money that your credit rating and other financial matters could be in jeopardy.
Well it is a hard thing to deal with and it involves trust and working together to get over. Did his mother give him specific rules on the money and how to use it and who can use it? Either way that kind of thing should be decided between the two of you. I listen to this guy he has helped with a lot of financial issues www.daveramsey.com