If You Hurt Someone You Love By Saying Horrible Things, Can This Person Be Healed?

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Mouse or Nette Profile
Mouse or Nette answered
A priest told this story about a tree and a nail to a person with a habit of saying things out of anger.. He said.. Everytime you get mad go and hammer a nail into a tree.. After awhile that tree is full of nails.. You can regret it later.. You can go out and remove all the nails.. But you can't remove the holes or the damage.  yes there is forgiveness but those hurtful words still leave a scar even if it heals over.    I know that even today I can remember things said to me as a child that hurt. 
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Anonymous commented
Excellent metaphor, thanks!
Anonymous
Anonymous commented
I agree 110% that's what i feel. Thanks
Peggy Burtwell
Peggy Burtwell commented
I am going to use this on my children as they say the most horrible things to each other. Thank-you
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Brian Reed answered
Anyone can forgive. All it takes is a little willpower and compassion.I think you can just try a little harder...I know it is hard , just give it a little time ... Your friend ...Bif
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Just about anyone can be forgiving but its hard to say that you will forget, and not forgetting it will make it hard to say if you truly forgive.

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I have had many bad things said to me from someone I had cared for in the past I said that I forgive them but i never forgot what was said so I have held on to those thoughts and it caused me to build a wall .with there being no trust there can be no forgiving or forgetting.
Anonymous
Anonymous commented
Thanks, and I very agree with you. Truly forgive is near impossible as we cant forget.
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Yes, but it will take time the only thing he/she will do is to forgive but not to forget, everytime when they argue the person that have been hurt, he/she will bring it up somewhere, that is why I say forgiving but not to forget it's not that easily you know, I have been there. Maria
Lynne Dwyer Profile
Lynne Dwyer answered
Forgiving is easy, healing takes much longer, you never forget.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Say your sorry and then be really sweet and thoughtful- watch what your saying around them :)
 
derik wishes Profile
derik wishes answered
Yes part of it will have to be because they want to be healed and then the other part will have to be you asking for forgiveness
Lady D Bell Profile
Lady D Bell answered
If this person is a strong individual they will heal in time. They probably will forgive but not forget.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
It's not that easy you know even if it is accidentally and you don't mean it for it really hurts alright.... Experience is a teacher... Hehehe
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Well I know this really sounds crazy and all but I'm 12 yrs old and I know that sounds really crazy but I'm in love with this boy but I need your help and his name is trenton and I'm olivia am a full teenager well maybe not but me and him are like so much of best friends and I went out with him for only one day because I couldnt handle it but I still like hm
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Girlfriend why dont you wait until you get a little bit of mature, you know todays boys are just using us, you are still young my dear. Dont repeat the mistakes that has been done by our brothers and sisters. What you have to do now is to take care of yourself and concerntrate on your studies instead of boys you are still young my love. Take care maria

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