Face it: Your mother is a useless piece of crap. She's taking you for granted and you should never forget it. The day will come when she's terribly let down by her boyfriend and she WILL come groveling back to you. When that day comes, tell her to get lost. She's breaking a cardinal rule here. Who does that?
I have no idea. This has officially happened to me tonight and I am devastated. My father died 12 years ago and my mother was suddenly on her own after 33 yrs of marriage. My mother was no longer in love with him when he passed and hadn't been for most of my life. She told me had affairs on her but she choose to stay because of my sister and I. Unfortunately she always let me know this. About 6 yrs ago my Mom met this man who is 13yrs younger than her, has no job, has no teeth because he was a former Meth addict and basically didn't have a pot to piss in. Long story short, he moved in with her 3 wks after they met. She supports him 100% financially, he has got her smoking pot (my Mom never tried any drugs until she met him at the age of 61). She told me she is happy, that he treats her nice. She has let me know several times that she knows he will leave her and she doesn't want him to get any of her money or property. I have supported her and accepted this person only out of love for her. She has been sick for awhile now, not sure what is wrong with her, she hasn't been hospitalized or anything, just not feeling well. I don't call every week as I am newly married and taking care of my diabetic stepdaughters while thier father, my husband, is deployed to Afghanistan. When I do have time to call, she only talks about her garden and nothing else. Today I got a horrible email from this man saying the worst things you could say to someone and that he would have my mom cremated, we won't even know and he will disappear and don't think I won't do it..try me ! So basically threatened to harm her. I called her out of anger and fear, she backed him up, she didn't believe me even though I had the email to prove it, she is so wrapped up in his web. She told me off, blamed me and my sister for ruining her life and disowned me and my sister. I am devasted. She has chosen this looser over her only family. I live 1300 miles away or I would go there to try and talk sense into her but she said they won't be there. My sister and I are afraid for her well being and contacted to police. She emailed me and told me I basically no longer exist to her and will never here from her again. I responded and let her know I will always love her but she has made her choice. I am devasted, what do I do ???
The same thing has happened to be. Since my mother has been with this idiot (One week after her and my dad split up) she had lied consistently to me and completely changed. Not only has the boyfriend cheated on her, he has also gone out of his way to also lie to me and read my diary (what the heck who does that?!?!). Now my mother has decided to marry the f-wit, and has kicked me out to live with my grandparents (who forced her into an arranged marriage when she was, oh, my age). I realise this is in no way as terrible as the Guest's story also posted, and I am so sorry and hope that somehow, things will get better for your family.
Maybe its because she cares about her boyfriend which means she would most likely choose him over the kids because the kids wont go anywhere...they will always be hers...but she may think that if she neglects her boyfriend and chooses the kids that she wont have him anymore....and its probably not the answer your looking for but (love makes us blind),, if your one of the kids that this is happening to...I would suggest you sit down with your mom and tell her how you feel about the situation but also include that you understand where she is coming from but also how its affecting your relationship with her. Hope this helps (:
