I Am 20 And My Boyfriend Is 30. How Do You Feel About The Age Difference?

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I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 31. My dad has met him, and thinks he's great. We both make eachother very happy. I think it works because we're so similar - despite the age differences, we like doing the same kind of things and have a lot in common. We joke about the age gap sometimes, but it doesn't actually bother either of us. I hardly even think about it. I don't really see what the problem is. If you make eachother happy, then why would you want to end it? Don't look for reasons to be apart, look for reasons to be together.
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I'm 20 and My Gf is 30, we've been together five years. We have our own apartment, have lived together for 4 years and have great life together. She gets on with my family, and they're very close to her. As I am with her family. We love each other, more than you could imagine. We both enjoy the same thing's, despite the age gap. I think and age gap is only a problem, if you make it a problem. If you love one another enough, ignore what people say. If your family have issues with the relationship, then thats's they're problem. Your of legal age, and we're always going to make a life for yourself someday along with a partner. So whether that person is 30 or 50 as long as they treat you with the respect and give you the love you deserve. Nothing else should matter.
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pernita spears answered
Okay I'm 20 and my man is 37 and in july 2010 it will be two yrs for us it' just all about how you feel for this person age makes no difference I actually enjoy the age difference because I get to teach him things from a younger point of view and vice-versa.
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I am 25, he is 34. I don't know what to say. We've been dating for 5 years now, I do want to say that there are + and - in these type of relationships. I never thought I'd date an older man, for me 5-6 years was the max gap allowed. For 4 years I thought naively that he is just 6 years older than me, until one day his mom asked me why I keep on saying that he is 30 when in fact he is 33. I felt my ego crushed so badly, I also felt betrayed! I never went through his documents because I trusted him 100%. He's stupid secretive ways of being, made me doubt not only him, but also other men that I might meet in the future.

Also, this year I will be finishing my bachelor and I am still trying to figure out how to build an exciting career, while he is thinking about buying a house. I am poor and I feel guilty for not being able to help, I also freak out thinking that we should be having kids soon! Of course, the worst part is that I have no word in anything; I don't feel like we are working together as a team. I tell him everything about me, in details; I discuss my plans, while all he does is keep secrets away from me. I am mad at him because of that, I wished he would stop seeing me like child; I am a woman and a smart one. So my problem is that I don’t want a second dad, I have one, thanks, I want a partner!

I love him so much and we do get along well but dating an older man can be challenging and often we are forced to adapt to the situation and grow up faster. Other than that, we make a good couple and I don’t have a fear that he’ll leave me tomorrow for some younger flame he found in the club, with no panties on. There is definitely this nice feeling of stability and I do enjoy asking him for advices, after all he had seen more things than me in this life.
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Lena JH answered
It depends on how you two are together, how your personalities match and how you get along. I mean, vast age differences matter to me but honestly it all ends up with you two. My friend (21) is dating a 25yr old. He acts like 30 and she acts like 18! Its up to you two to prove to the world you guys can make it regardless of age difference and what others say
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I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 26. We are very much in love, and I agree that it doesn't matter if you really love eachother. After two years I am feeling like I have lost my youth a little and that I would be much happier being single and having my fun before settling down, like my older boyfriend wants. Its hard to hear about all the great times he had in college and I am missing out on those things because I am stuck playing house. Having an older boyfriend defenitely had its disadvantages, but if its true love hold on to what you have.
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CICI answered
As long as your in love then the age difference shouldn't matter
LOVE SHOULD NOT BE HELD DOWN AND CHAINED. IT SHOULD BE FREE AND HAVE NO BOUNDARIES!
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lee taylor answered
I'm a guy of 48 (although not your typical 48 which I think can make a difference)  my girlfriend is 21,she chatted me up we get on great,we have been dating 9 months and its all good so far ! I don't give a toss what people think and nor does she,But to be honest we really havent notices and adverse looks from people!
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Yen Oh answered
Not a problem, age is not an issue when it comes to love. I'm 34 and my bf is only 21.  Can you believe that?  But we've been together for years now and we're happy.
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I'm 33 and my boyfriend is 21. We get along just fine. If you're both grown age shouldn't matter.
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Its about right,women mature faster than men,10 yrs roughly makes a par..good luck...works for me...80 and 70..who gives a shit.xx
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It may make people feel you are too young for him if you say you are 19 which is age of teenage and he is 30 which is belong to thirties. But I think it does not matter as long as you guys get along with each other and love each other.
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kristyna
kristyna commented
I don't think its matters I'm 18 and my bf is 35 we fight but in the end we love each other and have a lot of fun with each other I don't really think age has anything to do with a realtionship. If you worrying about it then u shouldve thought about maybe the first date u guys went on and shouldve left it at that but you didn't so that means you care so let me just say age is nothing but a number sweetie
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I am 19 and my gf is 32... It is just amazing.   I think we are very compatible because she says that guys her age cannot keep up with her.  I don't know if we will get married, but she is teaching me things that most 19 year old girls wouldn't even be able to dream about.  I think age difference is not important, especially if only dating.  In some postings what some of you are describing may be illegal, so be aware of that.  Do the much older men replace your need for a father figure?  Maybe you should think about that too....
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divadoll diva answered
It doesnt really matter as long as you love each other that is all that matters so don't listen to what others have to say it is your opion that only counts so yeah there is actually no difference if you love each other. Well... Wish you well
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I'm 16 and my ex boyfriend was 23 and he couldn't handle what other people said about the age gap.
However, a close friend of the family has been staying at our house for a while, my parents absolutely adore him and he has been very supportive of me, almost like a big brother. Although recently there has been a few sparks and a couple of times we've been in a situation were I could tell that both of us wanted to make a move but were too scared, because he is 29.
I hate that people have such issues with age difference. I'm often told how mature I am for my age and how much older I look. And he is pretty much a big kid anyway! I don't really know whether to say something or leave it, I'm not sure what peoples reaction would be. But we get on so well and he is perfect in every way and such a gentleman. If it doesn't go anywhere then whoever I marry has to be like him!
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eugene hunt answered
No real problem, my dad was 8 years older than Mom, and my sister married an older man. Both had good marriages and happy lives, but both were widowed at a relatively young age, something to think about? Means living a lot of your golden years alone, unless you are one of the lucky ones to find somebody else...
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Anonymous answered
It's fine.I'm only 16 and my bf is 20,but were perfect for each-other.
His sister is my age,which was a bit weird at first but
I've been told all my life I was mature for my age,and he seems to think so.
So I guess it depends on the people,how they get along and overall maturity.
If your in love,don't let age stop you!
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I love it be with who ever da f%;k you wana be with its your life you got2 live it howeverr da hell you want it don't matter what otherz think or say because only you can make you happy in da end noone else can make you happy only da person you want to be with da most if he loves you and you luv him da hell wit it be 2gether wats a chance you gana find anotha guy like him again soooo sh!t man F?*k it be happy live your life you only live once don't let ppl get you down wit dey hatin az$ words sooo yea do you and do what you want its part of life to explore n sh?t like that... I need a drink!!! Best of luck!
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I'm 21 and my fiancé is 34. I agree; if you guys get along go ahead... If you don't don't even try to fight it...
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Anonymous answered
I'm 31 and my fiancé is 19. How can I tell if she's mature enuff to stay
MArried for the rest of our lives? She says she is sure and that she doesn't believe in divorce. Should I worry she will cheat but stay Married?
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kedria scales answered
Well I don't think age matters as long as you both are happy with the relationship.I'm 16 and my bf is 29.We're completely happy with everything. We've been togther for a year now. Everything is perfect.
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Amanda Lattering
Amanda Lattering commented
My boyfriend is 34, he has never been married, he has no kids, he looks 25, he does everything 25 year olds do... And i, am 16. I work, i go to school, i help support my mom with the money i earn, i do very well in school and my boyfriend supports me... He even helps my mom, my mom doesn't know We're dating but she thinks He's a wonderful guy. He pays for me to go to gym, he pays for my dancing lessons because my mom cannot. We are very happy together.
Amanda Lattering
Amanda Lattering commented
I may have a boyfriend alot older than me but atleast i'm not running the streets and falling pregnant and drinking till i don't know where i am, like most 16 year olds.
lee taylor
lee taylor commented
Hi so after 2 years since these postings are you still with the older guy or didnt it work out??
Cheryl Regina Villanueva Profile
You have an ideal age gap. You must realize that women, because of childbearing, usually age faster than men. So be happy with it. Good luck to you both. My best wishes!!!!

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