When ever I'm in that situation, I try to stay out of it as much as possible but, however, I do remind them that there are others in the room and to please try and keep it civil. Nobody else needs to be around the negativity of a fight, it just drags everyone else down. At the same time, it's hard to not add fuel to the fire. It's hard, and I try to keep in mind that they are my elders and I must respect them but it's not easy to keep a respect when they are at each others throat.
There have been times when I've had to walk out of the room heartsick over it. When the storm is over I try to keep my mind open and listen to them if they talk to me. I then will approach and let them know how much I do not like to hear the fighting and how it hurts me. Nine times out of ten they don't realize how much they've put onto the others in the room when they are fighting and it makes them realize that. Be honest with your feelings and let them know how you feel. If they don't like it, too bad, least they know what they are doing.
There have been times when I've had to walk out of the room heartsick over it. When the storm is over I try to keep my mind open and listen to them if they talk to me. I then will approach and let them know how much I do not like to hear the fighting and how it hurts me. Nine times out of ten they don't realize how much they've put onto the others in the room when they are fighting and it makes them realize that. Be honest with your feelings and let them know how you feel. If they don't like it, too bad, least they know what they are doing.