I just found out my sister died? Just got a call, I feel empty... Really no question, I just... What do I do? She meant everything to me. What did you do or what would you do if you lost someone close?

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Rooster Cogburn , Rooster Cogburn, answered

As I lost my brother and sister many years ago now, all I could do was grieve in my own way. Just try to remember her in a happy way and she'll always live on in your heart. I know mine do. Time will heal but just never forget the good times ! Every time you do, she will be alive inside of you ! Hang in there. Takes time.

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Roy Lovett
Roy Lovett commented
Sorry to hear that and I'm sorry to say, what you said gives me the reassurance of knowing, I'm not alone. I talked to her only yesterday, we ended on a good note, which I am thankful for. We used to fight a lot... Thank you very much, I think I am going to just lay down for awhile till dad comes to get me.
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Dakota Mackenzie answered

Roy, honey... I'm really sorry.

I can try to help, okeh? ^-^ Hun, I don't want to sound cliche or anything but I want to tell you what happened with dad. A little after I was born, (my parents had me at a very young age.) My dad's mom died, I had a hole in my heart and was supposed to go in for an appointment that morning. My dad was at work when his mom died and my mom was at home with her and me, I guess? My grandma had come to my mom in a dream telling her she needed to wake up, when mom tried to hug her she said she couldn't touch her. Mom got up and found her dead... My dad believes his mom died and saved me, because after she died, I went in for my appointment and the hole in my heart was gone, I was... Okay....  You believe the in spirits and the supernatural like i do, Roy, you told me that... I find comfort in it, so does dad. Sweetheart, in time things will get better. You can remember her for now... Sorry about my ramble.

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Roy Lovett
Roy Lovett commented
No, no it's fine, not a ramble at all. Your story, sad as it was, did help me feel better.. Thank you... I understood what you meant, even with how you worded it ^-^ haha..... I don't know what to say anymore, I think, I might go lay down until dad comes to get me..
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dragonfly forty-six answered

First, I'd like to say how sorry I am for your loss. I have lost many people over the years, and there were some things that helped. Everyone grieves in their own way. Each unique unto themselves. I would say gather those around you who you love. Be kind to yourself. Focus on being there for your family, and allowing them to be there for you. Do not feel bad or guilty about anything. You are a good sibling, and friend. Honor her memory in all that you do. Live the best life you can. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts, wishing you all strength and love during this difficult time.

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dragonfly forty-six
dragonfly forty-six commented
Okay. If there is anything I can do, let me know. If you want to talk about her, or talk just to vent, let me know. When someone close to me died I swore I would never lie to someone who was grieving. I would never be trite, and I would never blow smoke up someone's rear end to make me feel better. I know people were only trying to help, but telling me they didn't know what to say was better than telling me the deceased was in a better place. I won't lie, and above all I will just listen. People around you might be strange for awhile. Some won't know how to deal. It's normal.
Roy Lovett
Roy Lovett commented
People are acting strange and dad is upset I'm spending so much time on this site now. >.> but I'm only doing that because everyone on here goes on with life, is positive and is a much better environment than mine now.. Umm.. I hope you don't mind but I followed you incase I do decide to talk.. My friend said talking to you may help because you seem to have everything together and your words have made me feel a bit better. It's really hard to talk about it right now but I'll try when I'm ready. Thanks so much..
dragonfly forty-six
dragonfly forty-six commented
I followed you back, so in the future you can message me if you need. I'll check in with you periodically also. You are more than welcome to talk to me. I'll help in any way I can. I don't know about having it together, but I'm an older mom of two, whose been around a bit. If anything, I can just listen to you. Being a mom for a minute, bear with me. :) Remember to eat whenever you can or are able. It might be hard, but you need the calories. Eat comfort food. Rest when you can, not sleep, that might be impossible, also drink some water. Think about using a night light in the room you'll be sleeping in. All suggestions that helped me the first days after having my world blown to Heck. I'll be checking in regularly in case you have left a message.
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Bubblicious Bubblicious answered

I'm so sorry for your loss. All great advice. Stay close to dad and continue to talk about your good memories. It will be a roller coaster of emotions. Time will help.

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Roy Lovett
Roy Lovett commented
You're right about the emotions... And things have been weird between dad and I but I have to stick with him because I'm not allowed to see mom anymore >.> That's all I'll say, sorry if all this is annoying lol I'm kind of an open book... Thank you...

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