How Do I Cope With A Jealous Girlfriend?

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How Do I Cope With A Jealous Girlfriend?

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Answer 1

In my opinion, a certain amount of jealousy and possessiveness is fairly normal in most relationships. It's when that jealousy starts having an impact on your relationship that it becomes a problem that needs addressing. If you feel like your girlfriend's jealousy has reached that stage, I'd recommend considering the following steps:

Reassuring a jealous girlfriend It may sound obvious, but the first thing you should do is reassure your girlfriend. Although she may seem irrational (or even crazy) to you, there are often deep-seated reasons why a girl becomes jealous and possessive over a partner.
You don't even necessarily need to bring the whole jealousy issue up straight away, but instead you could try out a more softly-softly approach.
Try dropping in compliments about her personality and appearance more often than you usually would. Make more of an effort to spend quality time with her. There's no need to go overboard (it may even raise some suspicions if you do), just spend a few weeks making sure she knows that you notice all the wonderful things about her.

Talking to a jealous girlfriend If the indirect approach doesn't work, the best thing to do is to sit down with her and discuss the issue frankly but sensitively. Explain that you are uncomfortable about her jealous behaviour, but also reassure her that she has nothing to worry about and that you only have eyes for her.
Try to work out what the reasons for her insecurity are.

Perhaps she has been cheated on in the past?
Maybe she is having or has had problems in her family life?
She could be insecure about her looks, weight, appearance or any number of other things.

Getting to the bottom of the problem is important for your relationship. It may require a bit of effort and hard work on your part, but if you feel a relationship is worth fighting for, then having an open and honest discussion might just be the beginning of a new, jealous-free chapter.

Answer 2

A jealous girlfriend can be very hard to handle, the possessiveness, the apparent ridiculousness to you is palpable but to her, she is sure that you are cheating, or planning on cheating or planning on planning on cheating with your flatmate, your ex-girlfriend, your neighbour or Holly Valance.

How do you cope with it? It's very difficult. The girl is clearly worrying over nothing due to low self esteem, she fears that she will lose you over the smallest things. What you can do is not make it worse, don't hang out alone with beautiful friends, try not to stay out drinking and always call her at the end of the night, this helps her know that you are hers. Reassurance can work with light jealousy.

The problem is that often the jealous is pathological, even when these steps are taken, the jealousy, the lack of personal esteem means that her mind works against her, she calls up crying asking if you are sleeping with your sister because she saw the way you two were looking at each other.

So, it is that the only way to 'cope' with a girlfriend in this situation is through the help of a psychologist or perhaps in the worse case scenario, you can hoist her off, and start again. Sad but true.