According to science you are either born gay or you are not. "Turning" gay is a choice. It is a choice made in this case by a girl who is afraid to face being hurt again by someone she cares for. The unfortunate truth is, she may be hurt by a girl as easily as by a boy. There are no guarantees in life that any relationship will work out with a fairy tale ending. We must be open to love and make every effort to be sure that our life partner choices are wise and the person we give our heart to is worthy of our commitment and our devotion. The only time this possibility of being hurt is not a possibility at all, is when we never allow ourselves to become involved with another person. There simply are no guarantees that all will be a bed of roses. Our hearts must become hard and closed to all involvements if we are to be sure we are never hurt. That is a terrible way to live. Choose wisely, think of all possibilities before making a decision and believe that you are truly worthy of being loved and treasured by your life partner. You can not change a person, if he lies to one person, he is a liar. Do not be surprised when you find he lies to you. If he drinks to excess and likes to party with his buddies, don't be surprised when he places you second behind his good times. Being hurt does not have to turn you off men. It should only make you more strong and much wiser. Saying all men are heartless beasts is simply wrong. There are good men, loyal men, loving men, hard working men and men who would like to commit to a young lady who is looking for a forever relationship. They are not on every corner but one thing to keep in mind....when looking for a rose among the thorns, you won't find it (him) in a garbage dump. Where you find your love tells a lot about him.. Because a girl was hurt by a no good bum does not mean she will never have the type relationship with a man that her dreams are made of.
