If your boyfriend isn’t paying attention to you, it can be hard. Firstly, try to think if you have done anything to annoy him. The answer to that is probably no, you haven’t as you would have some idea of why he wasn’t paying attention to you and wouldn’t need to ask. So if you know it’s not your fault you need to find out from him.
If he loves you and what’s bothering him is something to do with his life and he doesn’t want to bother you with it as like most guys, he won’t want to show that he gets upset or that things can bother him. Especially to you as he’ll feel like he has to be strong otherwise you might think less of him. Here you’ve got to talk to him tell him how much you love him and that you want to be able to help him through his troubles, just as he probably does with you. You have to make sure he know that it’s ok to tell you he’s upset and that he’s does not have to pretend to be strong enough to deal with everything on his own. Tell him that you want to help him and that he should allow you to as he has no reason to protect you. You are a couple and strong couples need to be able to help each other when one of them has worry or a problem.
Here we come to the darker side of the reason why he may not be paying attention to you. Guys can be horrible at times and he may have done something to betray you, such as go out with another girl. Or he may not have feelings for you anymore. Here though it’s hard especially if you still love him. You need to ask him and get him to tell you if any of these are true. If it is correct that he has cheated on you then that it is all down to you. You can forgive him if it was a one off mistake and completely out of his character, but in most cases that won’t be true and you are realistically better off without him, no matter what he says. You have to focus on you, and do the things that will eventually make you happy. And yes at first without him you may be sad. All humans want companionship as its part of human nature; the thing is you will find someone else who would never even think of cheating on you.
If the case is that his feelings for you have gone then, though it will hurt you to hear it, it eventually will be better for you as it will allow you to move on and find someone else who will love you forever. If you both remain in this relationship where his feeling for you have gone then neither of you will be happy.
If he loves you and what’s bothering him is something to do with his life and he doesn’t want to bother you with it as like most guys, he won’t want to show that he gets upset or that things can bother him. Especially to you as he’ll feel like he has to be strong otherwise you might think less of him. Here you’ve got to talk to him tell him how much you love him and that you want to be able to help him through his troubles, just as he probably does with you. You have to make sure he know that it’s ok to tell you he’s upset and that he’s does not have to pretend to be strong enough to deal with everything on his own. Tell him that you want to help him and that he should allow you to as he has no reason to protect you. You are a couple and strong couples need to be able to help each other when one of them has worry or a problem.
Here we come to the darker side of the reason why he may not be paying attention to you. Guys can be horrible at times and he may have done something to betray you, such as go out with another girl. Or he may not have feelings for you anymore. Here though it’s hard especially if you still love him. You need to ask him and get him to tell you if any of these are true. If it is correct that he has cheated on you then that it is all down to you. You can forgive him if it was a one off mistake and completely out of his character, but in most cases that won’t be true and you are realistically better off without him, no matter what he says. You have to focus on you, and do the things that will eventually make you happy. And yes at first without him you may be sad. All humans want companionship as its part of human nature; the thing is you will find someone else who would never even think of cheating on you.
If the case is that his feelings for you have gone then, though it will hurt you to hear it, it eventually will be better for you as it will allow you to move on and find someone else who will love you forever. If you both remain in this relationship where his feeling for you have gone then neither of you will be happy.
