I've had the same problem. Don't communicate with him any way whatsoever, completely ignore him, is difficult but you must do it. Report him to the police and get their help, tell them you feel threatened & that it is affecting your life, tell as many friends/ family as possible, don't hide it. Every time you say even one word to him whether it be by phone/email/verbally you are responding to him so give him nothing but silence. Get on with your life, take your life back & stop letting this nut job rule you. So what if he knows 'stuff' about you, no matter how seedy/sordid/shocking you think that may be it isn't. Confide that 'stuff' to someone else & that he is holding it over you, bet you they will have only one concert....and that's you. Good luck....Deborah.
have a attorney send him a registered letter that you are filing harassment charges with the local magistrate in your area , If he does not stop harassing you ..Keep any material he sends , Also , Keep any text messages or voicemails ..trust me , he has to appear in your area , cause he is causing the trouble , to you ..BUT , DO NOT HARASS HIM BACK nothing he can hold against you.
Good luck. I broke up with a loser 27 years ago and he is still trying to "get in touch" with me. He calls my family, (pretending to be someone else), trying to get my address, is always asking people if they know where I'm at and just recently, his daughter found me on MySpace and emailed me telling me that her father had her looking for me for the past two years! I always made it very clear that I wanted nothing to do with him, and that I am very happily married, yet he still persists. He was a horrible person, controlling, possessive, and abusive. It's pathetic that he still can't get over the fact that I dumped him....27 YEARS AGO!!!! I guess my next move is to report him to the police. Maybe then he will get the picture.
Subscribe to Caller Block from your phone service. You can enter certain phone numbers into this service, and they can't reach your phone number - they constantly get a dial tone. You won't even have a record of them calling, because they can't get through at all. If they call from a "blocked" phone number, you can just "press 1" to add "last caller" to the list. And you can delete these numbers from the list of blocked phone numbers any time, every day if you want to. This will be the best $5/month you ever spent. Also, Zero Contact. With weirdos like this, any contact is good contact for them. So just don't give him an audience, and he'll eventually leave. Good luck.
Do not under any circumstances communicate with him - text, email, facebook, phone - just don't acknowledge any attempts. His attempts should get less frequent but may be more desperate after awhile. Don't be surprised if he disappears for a few months & then tries again. Just keep on ignoring him.
If he tries to get to you through mutual friends, just let them know you're not interested & leave it @ that.
If he still keeps calling or showing up unexpectedly, then have someone tell him you will go to the police for a restraining order (so save evidence).
But don't bother trying to convince them to stop. Just by talking to them you're inadvertently letting them know they still have an affect on you. The opposite of love is not hate, but apathy.
I don't know because I have the same problem a fool that does not want to move on I even tried moving its getting worse I did all the proper things the police etc, I even tried keeping a log but he would somehow get in my house and take my personal things I even install a camera he stole that, Hay' I just thought of this in your case maybe you could record him evey time he calls and have a witness or too there also to here what he says. At least your stalker is not coming in and out of your house. I will pray for you and me. But don't take this stalking lightly trie and protect yourself as much as possible. Also I he threatens harm call the police right away good luck De
I have had this same problem. I called his new girlfriend and told her he was calling me. That worked for quite a while. Then he contacted one of my friends. That friend told him what was going on in my life so I ended the friendship with her. A friend who tells your ex what is going on in your life when you don't want them to is not a friend. Then his guy friend called one day and said he was going through his numbers and found my number so called. I then changed my number. Just last week a friend of mine saw him setting on his bike just a few blocks from my house on the side of the road talking on his cel phone. He does not live in the same town as me so there isn't much reason for him to be here. I think he is trying to run into me now but if he does I will just ignore him or call his girlfriend again. Eventually he will go away. I wish I could move my house. Grrrrr
Hmm...in my opinion I would tell you to introduce him to another girl to get him off of your back...if that doesn't work then change your phone number ( if you can ) and get a new bf who will deal with your ex if he doesn't leave you alone.
Join the boxing club>>>>>> Have a picture of him in your room. And you look at it and say "I not afraid of you!" yell at it, hit it, scream at it, pretend that its a discount on shoes and that you will fight for it. Don't be afraid, it will only make you feel scared even more. Be safe and be careful... If not find your self a boyfriend who can protect you....
I was in the same situation ad these were the things that worked for me. You could have either your bf if you have one or just a really good friend try talking to him. He does not need to be nasty, but he just needs to get the point across. Also, you could let his gf know whats going on so she can set him straight. If neither of these work, you could even take it a step further with one of the above ideas
I would tell him that if he does not leave you alone that you will tell his new girlfriend what he is doing. If he continues to call, then go on and tell her. Hopefully he will get mad at you and leave you alone.
Well maybe you should threaten him with the police if its calls ignore it if its visits hide!!!! Or come right out and tell him that he needs to leave!!
Ignore the calls and the texts, hope you on top of all the above self defense class or karate class you may need to protect your ass! And don't give in to his texts or calls.a lady I know has been putting up with a guys texts till she finally did not answer them at all! Make him invisible 2 times a month delete them. Ok good luck you will need it. Just make sure you do all of the other ones above. Tc
Tell him straight forward that you don't want him in your life anymore and if he doesn't get the message then I suggest you just try to avoid him as much as possible
