What Rubbish! "Not without my daughter" was an anti-Iranian propaganda film made in Israel. It is political! Persian men are like any other men. The longer they've lived in the US, the more likely they are to be totally Americanized. The ones that have arrived more recently will appear more "old fashioned" -- imagine 1950's era. But it really depends on the nature of the individual in question. Persian culture is VERY family oriented, and there is a lot of emphasis on education and accomplishment. That's why most Iranian-Americans living in the US are very wealthy, educated and successful. Persians love poetry and quote poems all the time. They are very romantic!
I am an iranian man and I recommend that you don't marry an iranian unless you are really committed to be a wife and you know the difference between a girl friend and a wife. Also, if he is religious then you can make your mind up to see if you want to convert to his religion. There are various religions in iran but majority are muslims - islam does not advocate a converstion. If you are willing to marry him and forego your religion, then you must not have a strong belief in yours anyways and figure out what his religion is... Remember with men, you have to fill their bellies so can you cook. Second thing is can you understand their mentality, one aspect of this is religion. If you are in the same wavelength on these two things, you should live together for a very long time regardless of nationality or ethnicity. To help out with the other comment, if your iranian friend has not mentioned you to his parents then know that most likely he could leave you and not look back. But first talk to him and figure him out. I am not in favor of premarital sex so don't have it with him or anyone else... It is the end that justifies the means. Along the way, there are side benefits. Like as in eating, we eat to fill our stomatch so we have energy to get going i.e. To live. As we do that we enjoy the taste of the food, the smell of the food, the texture of the food, the people we converse with while we eat, etc. With respect to sex, the end is extension of family - kids. The side benefit is the pleasure we receive, the fulfillment of having to spend a complex emotional moment with our wife, etc. While men may be getting sex for its side benefits, in most usual cases, it is because woman allow it. Don't allow it and don't get pregnant and don't end up in awkward situation. The reason is one the seamen enters your body, it runs in your blood and you are attached to the person. Finally, I have watched that movie "Not without my Daughter' a few times, the family of the man are very important in how they receive an outsider and everyone's family is different. In US, we tend to simplify and draw big conclusions on what they have us believe. Not all iranian men think like me and not all iranian families fit the profile of the one in the movie and not all thinking stays the same. Iranian's are very hospitable people. The women's place is with her man regardless of the country they live in accept this and consider that this may be the case.
I've just recently married my husband who has been here in Australia for 2 years, from Iran. He is the most caring and generous guy I have ever been with. I have lived with him for over a year now. Go for it! Iran is an interesting country and we hope to travel there one day. I've met lots of Persians and they are great yet interesting people.
Ok. My boyfriend (Iranian) and I (Mexican) are planning to get married and I saw the movie" Not without my Daughter" and please someone help me! ... I am scared to become his wife because I don't have a lot of information about his country regarding those kind of rules and I am not sure.. Now I have tons of What if's and we talk about it but honestly I still feel scared....what are the odds?
Since half of marriages fail when you're marring a man who has similar characteristics to yours, race, family, religion etc you probably have a better chance if you marry some one not completely outside your family & race. Religion. I've dated Iranian men, who were very charming but they are so completely different from my culture & religion I wouldn't marry one. There are cases where these marriages work but few & far between. I've been married for 22 yrs to an Italian from New Jersey, I'm Jewish - Portugese & we seem to be compatible go figure....
The most important compatibility factor are beliefs. If you like Persian guys and you're Christian, marry a Christian Persian guy. I'm Mexican, married a Persian man, he's the sweetest most generous, helpful, and hygiene-conscious husband ever. I couldn't be happier, thank God. He takes care of me even better now than when we were dating. I feel like people try to make generalizations based on culture/ethnicity. Sure, some generalizations can be valid, but most are whack. There are good guys and there are weirdos of every ethnicity. I married my husband because he was genuine, kind-hearted and generous. I try to be the same with him in return.
I met this Iranian guy in our university.. He is 10 Years elder to me, but now we both are getting friendly and even more than friends... I don't know anything about Iranian guys... But I have never met such a polite and good man.
I'm engaged to a Persian man, he is 10 years younger but wise beyond his years! He's been working in IT since he was 14 and by 16 he had an office with staff. All this while he was still in school and working at night! Right now he's back in university getting a degree with his own $$$ but still managing his IT business from here! He's only 25 and knows how to treat me. He takes care of me very well, makes sure everything is ok, I literally don't have to lift a finger. I can't wait till he graduates so he can soar. I must say the thing that really got me hooked was how impressive this young man is. Very brave, strong, intelligent, sweet, responsible and handsome! I just want to see how far he can go. And boy....the romance.....he is just something else.
As for YOU.....if you are not already married to him, go for it only if you are prepared to completely give yourself to him. Persian men are sensitive but also very male oriented in the sense that you belong to him and vise versa. To say its male machoness is not completely fair because Persian culture itself spells chivalry and romance! They are very cultured, enjoy their poems and when it comes to love they can be so "rich". There is a term of endearment in Persian that literally means "my equal" which is a very romantic and loving thing to call your Persian lover. How sophisticated is that!
Unlike other middle eastern men, Persian men put the fairer sex at a much more respected position. But with all these great qualities come with a big string attached. Remember to never ever cheat on him, if he loves you that much, he will tear the house apart and would be so enraged that he would walk out the door and never be seen ever. They are very loyal men once you are together. As with any men, food is the way! Learn a few Iranian dishes and make him happy. He will return the favour with endless affection and care. You can be career oriented and if he loves you, you will have no problems but just be sure to be only his...
Every family and person is different. I think who ever a person chooses to marry, no matter what religion or nationality, must realize that communication and compatibility is the key. I am from the states and have been married to a man from Iran for 25 + years. Our religions are different and of course our cultural upbringings. We have enjoyed sharing our cultures and holidays BUT we do not try to change each other. That is respect. My in-laws love me and I love them. I am a horrible cook and my husband enjoys cooking. So we compromised. He cooks and I do the clean up. I know other couples that our Iranian/American. Some are very content and some were miserable. Our lives have had ups and downs but we confronted all the challenges and we are happy. Let’s face it, it’s not what the person is, it is who the person is. Keeping a marriage successful is a lot of work. It takes lots of love, patience and reassurance from both people. Just take your time and get to know the person you are going to marry.
As a persian girl i do believe that good and bad is everywhere. Why considering marrying to a specific nationality?when you meet someone you really love then you should also trust and respect the person despite all the differences.i've seen couples with same cultures that were miserable and different couples who knew how to solve this cultural barriers by sacrificing and respecting each other. For example your persian man is very close to his family in a middle eastern way(which is sometimes queer for westerners) then he should manage his relationship in a way that doesn't hurt his girl or wife's feeling.this is understanding despite of cultural differences.
I would not....for one good reason..He did turn his back when I'm pregnant to our baby... His totally scarred to become a father or leave his life being a single and addict to casino.
Don't. He will hear the call of home "Iran" at some stage in his life and will go leaving behind his family ( children) without a backward glance. That was my experience and that of many of my friends. Sorry.
