I Am A Married Man But I Fall In Love With Another Girl, What Should I Do?

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Anonymous answered
The first thing you should do is think very hard about what means the most to you,and why you are in love with the "other woman".When you got married you were in love with your wife so think back and try to figure out what changed over the years.Also think hard about the other woman,is it love or lust?If you have something really good at home that just needs some work don't destroy your family for something that you are not sure will work.On the other hand if there is nothing that can be done to save your marriage and you think what you have with your new love will last then end it as soon as possible.There will not be an easy way to not hurt your wife so be prepared for whatever happens and whatever you do don't tell her you are leaving her for another woman.Don't throw fuel on a fire!!
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Nina answered
Wow..On my opinion I think that's not right..One thing it's because you got married because she's the only woman that you'll always love and be with..I think that you should try to talk to someone about this..Unless your wife is treating you badly then I understand..But do you still have feelings for your wife..?!?!
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Taylor Barton
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Great answer!
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Anonymous commented
Ya! Ya! Having an affair is not a solution to ya stresses but an addition get yaself together n help ya wife to be the picture of the other woman out there compliment her kiss her like u used to earlier days when u fell inlove n u will be shocked
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Elena Gonzalez answered
Man up and make a decision either leave you wife no matter how much it hurt her because its not fair you can have both..so either you get with the girl you feel in love with...or forget about her and stay with your wife simple as that..but I honestly think you just just get a divorced because if your falling in love with other women its obvious your not happy with your marriage  or you just can't help love more then one person..
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Renee' Purdy answered
Marriage is a binding agreement that you both will stay with the other through it all. If you still believe in the vows you have made with her then you know what needs to be done. However, if you have realized that you made a rash decision in that agreement (and the other woman was not the cause or what started such thought (processes) then I suggest moving out to begin the separation process. That way your being fair in that your wife will engage the process of moving on for herself. Which why shouldn't she if you have already begun. Or there is always option C (my favorite) Bring her home to your wife. Unlike paligamy you only have vows with one and not the other.
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Anonymous answered
Follow your heart or you will always wonder what would have or could have been, you only get one life to live... Be open
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Iam a married man but I am fall in love with a girl what should I do
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Courtney Ostermiller
I think that it is wrong remember the vows though sickness and though health you told her you would always love her so forget about the other girl
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A married coworker and I are very good friends.  For the past year, we have formed a strong friendship and have confided personal family matters.  Recently, my friend (a married man) told me that he had feelings for me and could see himself spending the rest of his life with me.  I was blown away and couldn't concentrate at work.  I decided to kiss him and we both definitely felt the connection.  Luckily, I decided to tell him that we couldn't go forward because I couldnt feel guilty about interfering in his 28 years of marriage.  He states that he is planning to leave his wife, but know is not the right time due to his father in law being terminally ill.  I told him that if he was serious, he would end it and also be there for his wife now and in the future.  By the way, he has had numerous affairs throughout the years, but told me that he has never felt for others what he feels for me....Today, he told me that he would stay away and take care of his business and time will prove to me that he is being honest.  What do you think
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Mrs Ellis answered
Well let's see. You have already answered the question darling. You are a married man. You have no business allowing your mind to wonder like that. Imagine how your wife will feel once you tell her. You should tell her so that you two can make arrangements for her to move on with her life and find someone who will love her and not betray her. That is only fair. I will not pass judgement but why hurt your wife if you love someone esle. If you allowed your eyes, and heart to stray and become lustful after another. Your vows mean nothing to you apparently. So set the poor women free and go be with the lover that will seem to make you happier and don't worry about breaking your poor wife's heart. After all this must be her fault, right? I doubt it seriously. I feel sorry for your wife and am sorry but I cannot sypathize with you because you are wrong.
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When you married her, you made a commitment to her to always love her and her alone. Right? Does that not mean anything to you? And what about the other girl? What makes you think she wouldn't cheat on you? Apparently she approves of you cheating on your wife. If there is any love left for your wife, you should get counseling and try to work it out - if she is willing. Cheating is very hard to forgive. That's probably why God allows divorce only if the case of adultery. It is the ultimate betrayal. I hope there are not children involved. This complicates things further.

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