There is no manual that effectively illustrates How to Handle Disobedient Teens. It forms a very large chapter in ‘The Book of Life’ but that isn’t available in print either!
As difficult as it is to believe when it is happening, each teenager is different - but they also have a lot in common. There is a point in a child’s life when he or she seems to turn, almost overnight, from a sweet, obedient, innocent angels in to a bad-tempered, rude, disobedient monster!
Our children seem to become separated from us. They ignore us, and seem to retreat into their own world but the important thing to remember is that it's nothing you have done.
This stage in your child's life is an entirely natural though difficult stage, but the question remains - how to handle a disobedient teen?
You need to understand that teenagers are probably going to act, talk and behave in a confrontary and challenging manner. This is part of the process of growing up and for some it will be worse than others.
Choose your battles wisely! You will have a greater impact when you need to be heard and taken seriously and this will also help you avoid being seen as someone who is always nagging!
This does not mean you have to tolerate rudeness oe unpleasant ness but know when to try and assert some control.
The behaviour that you interpret as defiance could be evidence of some other problem in their lives that they don’t know how to handle or are too embarrassed to talk about. If you can establish a good dialogue, then you are on the right track, so it is important to try and be aware of what is going on in your teen’s day to day life - without intrusion.
Quite often, teenagers be defiant simply because they know they can get away with it. If your actions do not match up to your words, you are sending confusing messages, so try to set some firm rules and keep to them!
No matter what, you should remember that your consistent attempts at good parenting, and at maintaining a strong, caring relationship, are among the most important things your troubled teen needs.
As difficult as it is to believe when it is happening, each teenager is different - but they also have a lot in common. There is a point in a child’s life when he or she seems to turn, almost overnight, from a sweet, obedient, innocent angels in to a bad-tempered, rude, disobedient monster!
Our children seem to become separated from us. They ignore us, and seem to retreat into their own world but the important thing to remember is that it's nothing you have done.
This stage in your child's life is an entirely natural though difficult stage, but the question remains - how to handle a disobedient teen?
You need to understand that teenagers are probably going to act, talk and behave in a confrontary and challenging manner. This is part of the process of growing up and for some it will be worse than others.
Choose your battles wisely! You will have a greater impact when you need to be heard and taken seriously and this will also help you avoid being seen as someone who is always nagging!
This does not mean you have to tolerate rudeness oe unpleasant ness but know when to try and assert some control.
The behaviour that you interpret as defiance could be evidence of some other problem in their lives that they don’t know how to handle or are too embarrassed to talk about. If you can establish a good dialogue, then you are on the right track, so it is important to try and be aware of what is going on in your teen’s day to day life - without intrusion.
Quite often, teenagers be defiant simply because they know they can get away with it. If your actions do not match up to your words, you are sending confusing messages, so try to set some firm rules and keep to them!
No matter what, you should remember that your consistent attempts at good parenting, and at maintaining a strong, caring relationship, are among the most important things your troubled teen needs.