My friends have trouble understanding my real motives behind what I want to be when I grow up. More in the answers ↓↓↓?

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Matt Radiance Profile
Matt Radiance answered

Just tell them what you told us. Explain your reasons. If they don't believe by any means. Well, that's out of your duty, your not responsible for that. I would highly suggest to not care what your friend thinks about your motivations. You have a goal, stick to it, follow it & become who you want to become. It doesn't matter what your friends thinks about your motivations. If it's very important to you to convince them. Yet, don't make it a discussion, just repeat your motives anytime that the topic came on, then pass, by your constant repeats they might finally swallow up the point.

People will rate you,judge you,will attempt to break you,but how strong you stand will makes you, "you". I know this might not fully be related, but i just wanna say you are who you are, as long as you have a goal, doesn't matter what others think about your motives,purposes & reasons & actions, you living life for yourself not for other's thoughts.

Tris Fray Potter Profile

I have a complex congenital heart disease (CHD) and I want to be a paediatric cardiologist, except my friends think it's so I can help other kids like me (this is only partly true).  I want them to understand that I want to be a paediatric cardiologist, and I am likely to have gone into the field even if I didn't have CHD.  This is not just to help HeartKids, but my friends won't listen to me. What can I do to make them understand that my motives are pretty selfish, as I want to know more about what I have, and also because I am very curious about that sort of science?

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Veronica Dultry answered

Why does it matter to you so much that your friends know your "true" motivation? That you are being "selfish". Do they view you as a "good" girl and you are tired of it. Are they making you out to be "noble" and your tired of hearing about it?

My thoughts are that they aren't listening to you anyway. They have a perception that they want to believe. I don't think they will hear you even if you tried. Don't know if that's what's really bothering you or not. But in the end only you need to know your own motivation. Not anyone elses business. As far as them thinking better of you, would you want them instead to think a lot less of you? Do you REALLY want that? I wouldn't. People are harsh. If my best friends think better of me than I am, that's the way it's supposed to be. Gives me something to aspire to. Maybe their perception is correct. Maybe YOU are being hard on yourself.

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