I Don't Want My Children Anymore. My Relationship Has Failed And I Don't Want To Be A Mother. What Should I Do?
I experienced similar feelings and tremendous guilt. My ex husband is mentally ill but he appears happy and well adjusted to the general community. He is superficially nice but some people see through him. I can't stand anyone who can stand him. My children can stand him. That causes a conflict in my heart and mind.
Also, your dreams have been shattered like mine. I wanted to grow old with this man after 16 years and hold our grandchildren together as a married couple. I enjoyed sharing the children's cute moments with my spouse and now when they have a milestone I don't have anyone to smile or laugh with. Having children in my mind, and it sounds like in yours, is something you do together as parents. When my ex husband ran off with his girl then that missing piece of the puzzle seemed to scramble all the pieces. It doesn't make sense at times that I am with them alone with no one to share the joy and sorrows. It gets so painful, the kids remind me of him, that I almost think I'd be better without the children. I can't feel it in my heart but I know in my mind that I would regret it. I'd like to know what you ended up doing? Its been a while since you posted. I wish I could shake my feelings. I don't have financial problems raising them. Its just the constant reminder of him-I want to run away from anything that even vaguely reminds me of that man. And it makes me want to give them back when I think of him with this other woman. I am so sorry that you are in this much pain.
Also if you do want them then make sure that you provide them a healthy environment, I know this world isn't perfect but TRY for them if not for yourself, overall you are their only mother they will ever have. You gave birth to them they are a part of you. You can do it. I will support any decision you choose to make. Go with what your heart tells you. I hope I helped you out.
Really no man or anyone should every make you that down, you don't want to
deal with your kids thats crazy you need to seek expert advice!
How would you have felt if you mother gave up on you..not trying to be mean...but you are
all they have, you gave birth to them...
I'm a single mother of 6 kids 5
boys 17 15 13 11 10 and 1 girl who is 9... They're brats, ungrateful
slobs, and a pain in my ass 99 percent of the time
M.y 15 year old has osteoporosis so we are at the doctors at least 3 times a week. My 13
year old has ADHD bipolar with opposite defiant disorder - he has therapy
twice a week and a doctors appointment once a month.
All my kids do is
fight and argue and sometimes my stress level is through the roof but
never in a million years would I ever think of getting up on my children
one day they will be grown nobody ever said there was a book on how to
be a good parent all you can do is guide your child in the right direction
and hope for the best!
So no matter how stressed you get or how bad your
kids may be acting, they are yours. Suck it up and deal with it!