I Am Female Interested In My Lesbian College Professor, How Do I Let Her Know?

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Will Martin Profile
Will Martin answered
Getting involved with anyone from the faculty while you are still studying is very risky and full of complications, even if she isn't actually your professor. Genuinely professional teachers will always try to avoid it, so even if your tutor is interested in you she may not feel it's right to pursue it; and personally I would respect that. However, you won't be a student for ever, and anyway there is no harm in being friendly. Why not try to know her a little better as a person, and let time take care of the rest?
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Anonymous answered
I agree with the first reply... I would say to just be friendly and ask her some personal questions about herself. People love to talk about themselves. There's something about working closely with someone else, whether it be school, work or whatever, that can masquerade as romantic feelings or at least cause a crush to develop. I personally have an attraction to unavailable people. I have crushed on several or maybe more professors/instructors through high school and uni. I think there is something about smart, authoritative figures that really gets to me. The curious thing is I'm not even sure how I'd see them or how we'd truly get along if they were no longer a "teacher" figure.

Anyway, I'd suggest just keeping it *friendly* as long as possible, and if it's meant to be, it will happen. With sticky situations like this, though, it's best to move as slowly as humanly possible. I'm trying this exact approach with a current teacher crush. We get along great and I really admire him (which, I admit, I don't know all that much about him, except he's fun, cute, wickedly smart, very alluring to me, and he also tells me I'm smart and seems to have taken a liking to me). I'm flirty and attentive with him, but not overly so. I don't want to force things before we would both be sure a possible relationship is worth the risks. I'm going to be his student for at least another semester, so I think any kind of sexual or romantic relationship has to be off limits, at least for now. I would be way too weirded out if anything bad happened and I had to go on attending class. I am really hoping we can be friends if nothing else.  

Good luck. Just do what feels right in your heart (while at the same time trying to maintain perspective on the responsible way to behave) and things will work out :)
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K. Money answered
I just want to let you know that I am sure she is already aware you are attracted to her ... As you know she has been looking at you too... I havent read through all the other responses here...I'm just giving you my answer straight up... Good luck to you...being in a lesbian relationship is fkng amazing - I have been with my wife for 8 years now...she actually started out as my boss - its a really long story as you can imagine...:) follow your heart. <3 if its meant to be things will fall together.
marquita mcguire Profile
Thanks, to all who responded. I know the RIGHT thing to do is to leave it alone. I am over 30 years old and so is she. But school is over now til Jan, so maybe my crush will subside, but she is still giving me signals.Thanks again.
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Amanda Marie answered
My answer: DON'T! This is very risky business. You can get in a lot of trouble {[maybe even expelled]}, and you can put a lot of pressure on them ; possibly making it very uncomfortable to be around each other. & You run the risk of getting him/her fired or put behind bars. Watch out.
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Anonymous answered
Please, do not get involved!  Take this from someone who just went through this.  The results can be devastating.  I am a young straight female who got involved with my older lesbian professor while I was in her class.  She has since moved on and is with someone else, and I am left with all the pieces of this mess to pick up.  Not to mention the heartbreak I have been going through.
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If by interest you mean sexual then that in not a natural interest . The bible calls it sexual immorality .And sexual immorality is a sin. Jesus can save you from all sin.I not am trying to curtail your "human right".You have a choice to make.Sin separates us with God eternally.
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