If youre not ready for a gay relationship... Dont be in one. If a relationship is kept a secret, it usually doesn't work out anyway.
My lesbian friend likes me. I like her but I am 'in the closet' right now (I'm a panromantic heterosexual). I wouldn't want anyone to know about this relationship as well! What should I do?
In the future there is no more gender.
For lack of a better way of putting it,
The Idea just gets used up.
This is why aliens are so interested
in humans.