But I tell you 1 thing.
First, take your husband in confidence then he will do everything you want.
Otherwise wait until she passes away
I found that dealing with 'in-laws' is best done by the son or daughter of the said in-law. My husband and I made a pact shortly after we got married that if my mother made a problem, I would be the one to talk to her, and likewise with his mother he would deal with it. Parents will forgive their own children if they have a row, before they will forgive the newcomer to the family. We found that this worked extremely well, we did have to resort to it a couple of times, and the strategy worked very well.
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