I Only See My Boyfriend Once A Week,but During The Week We Barely Talk On The Phone, What Should I Do?

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Abi Ainscough Profile
Abi Ainscough answered
The best advice would be to talk honestly with your boyfriend about how you feel. You might even find that he has been thinking the same thing and would like to talk more too. There are a few questions that you could ask yourself that might help you to think more clearly about your situation. Do you have fun when you see your boyfriend once a week? When you are together do you talk a lot? Do you feel that you can be open and honest with your boyfriend? The answers to these questions might help determine whether you think it is right to continue to see your boyfriend. Communication is an important part of a relationship as it is how you will grow as a couple. Openness and honesty should be the foundation of any relationship and will help you to find out what you have in common with each other and how you can best support each other. Perhaps the problem relates to the costly nature of phone calls. In this case you could try other ways of communicating with each other, such as texting or emailing or even writing letters to each other.  It may be that you will have to make more of an effort yourself to call your boyfriend more often and ask some questions that will get him talking. Once he sees how easy it is, he might open up to you more. If you are unhappy in your relationship then you do not have to stay in it, it might be that if you cannot communicate with each other then you are not right for each other. This is not a decision that needs to be made overnight so take some time to think about what your next step should be and perhaps try some of the advice listed above.
Brenda Harrell Profile
Brenda Harrell answered
Hi, first of all is he worth it to you? Is this the type of relationship you want? If so, find something else to fill your time. Maybe, a club, sport, the arts or some girl time with your friends. Stop focusing on him, life is not all about him. It's about you. Take care!
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I hate how people on here can be real jerks seriously when someone asks for advice they automatically jump to the worse case sceneiro I have been in a realtionship like this for over 3 yrs now both of us are full time students and work full time so there isn't much time to get to spend together. We make sure we see each other once a week and barly get to talk just like your situation. I had a lot of problems with it at first but a way we figured out to make it work without bugging or being pushy is each week when we got to see each other we would exchange a letter we wrote from the previous week just saying things that happened and reassure each other that we loved one another and what not. Maybe you should talk to your boyfriend when he comes over and see if this would be something he was willing to try and see if it brings you closer and fills that gap that is left from little time communicating. I wish you the best of luck hope it helps. :)
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Well I can understand your feeling. My boyfriend is on a business trip recently, so we talk on the phone every night, sometimes if he forgot to call him, I feel upset even though I know he is busy. But the wise thing to do is not to chase after him or give him too much pressure, man does not like that even though they don't say it. As health lady said, you need to focus on your own things while you can't see him, watching tv, meeting friends, reading your favorite books. Otherwise, the relationship can't keep going long, both of you will get tired and frustrated. Good luck!
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What you need to do is to trust your guy.. If he's a student, then just let him focus on studies and so do you.. Relationship needs patience and he will definitely call you when he has free time. Don't forget that there is no vow between both of you unless you both are married. If he leaves you, then you shouldnt blame him because in dating, there are no promises with one another. There are many things you can do in your life, so just be patient and keep on praying. Just ask God what you want and I'm sure you will receive what you really need to receive =)
Missy Mireles Profile
Missy Mireles answered
My bf and me were having the same problem with time issues. If I was busy he wasn't and when he was busy I wasn't. The way we got through things was to leave each other sweet text messages and I would save them and when I missed him I would read the text messages. I always felt so much better after reading one.
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Charlotte Jodie answered
You obviously don't trust him, and you can't have a relationship without trust, I'm 14 and I have been with my boyfriend for 16 months(06.10.06).

If you love him then you will trust him, and not have any doubt that he is actually really busy.

You may not think this advice is good because I'm only a child and at 14 not many girls know what love is, well our relationship has not been easy but things have really sorted themselves out and things have never been better for me.

I hope this helps you to understand that you should trust him, if your sure you really love him.
thanked the writer.
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I do not think she is saying that she doesn't trust him. She said he is busy and believes that to be so. Tines are tough now, we all have so much to do. If you only see each other once a week but you keep in touch by other means, maybe that's not so bad. Mind you, this is coming from a busy person. In the end tho, love finds a way, but on saying that...if I really stretched it, twice a week would be max. However, I would long for a way to change that:-)
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Jo-anne Renecke answered
K I agree don't even go ahead and mention this too him again because I'm in the same satuation where as his always occupied I see him atlease once a week which sucke's but its cool because I am no longer going to complain about wanting too spend more time with him one day he'll relize then it will be to late not going to hang around 4ever
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I am in the same situation and I am also jealous so is worst and I just think that you should just let him call you and let him look for you he would soon realize that he needs to spend more time with you
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I've been in that situation for the past year. I've tried talking to him about it, but nothing works. We live kinda far away :( Its hard to end a relationship where the only real problem is being too busy. However I have yet to find another solution. :(
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If it is not legitimate busy-ness, there just might be something or someone else occupying his other time. Talk it out. See what's going on. Your gut feeling is that there may be someone else. Most of the time our gut feelings are right.
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Well I have been experiencing the same thing where my boyfriend and I used to spend quality time together but lately he's been really busy and we didn't speak for about a week which really frustated me but when we saw eachother I realised had missed him a lot and through the week I didn't see him or speak with him I did other things like hang with my cuzzins(dey makes me laugh a lot) and did things that I've wanted to do but didn't find the time and read, to take my mind off of missing him so much and I programmed my mind to accept the reality of the situation and told myself am going to be a big girl about this, but I was going to break up with him, but when I saw him the love was there between us which made me want to give it a chance but tell him that even tho he's busy you'd still like to spend more time togther, I mean if spending time with you means something to him he'll at least make more time for you. But also notice how he is when you two are together is he loving or is he distant and that should tell you the real reason why he's so busy....is it because he's really busy or is it because he's not that interested in the relationship?
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Read "he's just not into you" and it will give you the anwer - or just dump him because being single isn't bad, you could go do girly things, there's plenty of fish out their for you!

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I think you should try to work it out with him if he walks out on you then just let it be take your things back and move away because you never know whats up and don't forget change your number
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If you see him only once a week dump him. I would only date a guy who I saw a lot. He is just a set-up. He may be lying to you and be cheating on you and more girls. He is old, garbage, take him out of your life.
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I'm going through the same thing. And I know he cares about me a lot but its sux. I think you shouldnt be pushy coz I think guys are clueless and they wouldnt understand. Patience :)
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Ma-bey tell your mom or dad or anyone your living with tell them I don't really see my boyfriend that often and it stinks because I really love him so can I see him a little bit more please I really love him. I SURE WISH THAT I HELPED YOUR PROBLEM

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