Oscar De La Huerte answered
There are various issues that need addressing here- the most important of which is that you shouldn't feel pressured into having sex when you don't want to.
Whilst sex is a vital part of any relationship, a one-sided sexual relationship is certainly not going to satisfy you- and evidently isn't even satisfying him either!
As with most sexual problems, the best thing to do is to speak to your husband frankly, but sensitively.
Sex and alcohol Do alcohol and sex mix? The issue is one that many people struggle with. The answer lies in how your husband reacts to alcohol. It's well known that some people become elated and jovial after a few drinks, whilst others become aggressive and uncontrollable. If controlling his temper is a problem for your husband - then the issue of whether he should be drinking at all comes to the forefront.
What to do about a drunk husband demanding sex As far as the sexual effects of alcohol on men, research suggests it's a double edged sword.
Consuming alcohol is likely to reduce your husband's inhibitions, so any feelings of sexual frustration or desire may manifest themselves after he's had a drink.
On the other hand, being drunk can have hampering impacts on the physiology of sex (trouble maintaining an erection).
It can also lead to his sexual advances being sloppy and therefore unappealing.
Changing the situation you are in is vital for your relationship.
I would suggest the following steps:
Whilst sex is a vital part of any relationship, a one-sided sexual relationship is certainly not going to satisfy you- and evidently isn't even satisfying him either!
As with most sexual problems, the best thing to do is to speak to your husband frankly, but sensitively.
Sex and alcohol Do alcohol and sex mix? The issue is one that many people struggle with. The answer lies in how your husband reacts to alcohol. It's well known that some people become elated and jovial after a few drinks, whilst others become aggressive and uncontrollable. If controlling his temper is a problem for your husband - then the issue of whether he should be drinking at all comes to the forefront.
What to do about a drunk husband demanding sex As far as the sexual effects of alcohol on men, research suggests it's a double edged sword.
Consuming alcohol is likely to reduce your husband's inhibitions, so any feelings of sexual frustration or desire may manifest themselves after he's had a drink.
On the other hand, being drunk can have hampering impacts on the physiology of sex (trouble maintaining an erection).
It can also lead to his sexual advances being sloppy and therefore unappealing.
Changing the situation you are in is vital for your relationship.
I would suggest the following steps:
- Try talking to your husband when he's sober, explain why what he does makes you feel uncomfortable. Try explaining foreplay to him (buy a book if necessary).
- Try initiating sex on your terms, when he's not drunk. Take charge and show him what you want out of a sexual encounter.
- Suggest doing something other than drinking before sex. Perhaps watching an adult movie together, or sharing a romantic bath might make better foreplay than a few pints of beer.
- If none of the above seem like a feasible approach, then unfortunately it may be time you re-assess why you're in the relationship in the first place.
