Well, it sounds to me like he's not the one. You need to have a heart to heart talk with him. He should spend more time with you, but not abandon his friends. If he truly loved you, then he would put you first. He would ask if it's ok if his buddies come over.
My Boyfriend Says He Loves Me, But Really Doesn't Show It, When I Come Over, He Lets His Friends Over Too, And They Play Games, While I Sit And Watch, I Feel So Left Out, When I Say Something To Him About It He Says I Shouldnt Feel Left Out?
He is using you so him and his mates can come to your house is not the right person for you and when he telling you he likes you he is not telling the truth my boy Friend done the same he kept telling me he liked me only because he didnt want me to be with any one else but he didnt want us to go out so I think he is doing the same to you don't take it any more I waited over a year until I got it in my head that he didnt want me I know not to make that mistake again ever
I don't know if what you are all saying is true. Its not that he doesnt love you, its that guys need their space with their friends...and this is especially true after a year or so into a relationship. It's hard because it is all about you at first, and then once those initial intense hormones wear off, the guy realizes, hey I have friends I havent' been paying enough attention to....And the same thing will or would happen to you if you could try not to get so caught up in him needing some time with his friends. Me and my boyfriend have been together 5 years, and it is sometimes hard, because when he is around his friends, its almost like he doesnt even notice I am there sometimes, but give him space, and he will realize how much he cares about you and how much it is worth giving you the attention, if He doesnt realize this then he is not the one for you honey.
I am in the same boat . My boyfriend has an 'open-door policy' when it comes to his house . So we're NEVER alone . Don't get me wrong, his friends are awesome, funny, so cool to hang out with . But when they're there, it's all about them, and 'every so often' he'll talk to me or something . When I plan things, and he agrees, e'll bail because "his friends are over, sorry" . He'll NEVER say no to his friends coming over, even if it means bailing on plans, or an opportunity to meet my family (which is important to ME) . When I finally brought it up, asking why he can't sparfe just ONE day without his friends, he said "well I'm sorry if this sounds rude, but my friends mean more to me than you" and refused to talk about it anymore .
Why are you allowing yourself to be treated this way? If this guy was someone you considered marrying you are seeing how unhappy he would make you. He puts his friends first, that is not a good sign. Try making a list of the good and the bad, maybe seeing it in black&white will help you decide about this relationship.
Tell him to pick over you or his Friends if he picks you he loves you
I'm in the same situation && I'm really over it because it makes no sense. I understand spending time with friends but I'm my mates friend as well as lover so, I need time too.