In my opinion gay bars :)
The best place to meet gay people online is downelink.com you can see over 400,000 gays
My partner and I like to get turned on by playing some gay porn games as a prelude stage. He's a gamer, the same can be said about me, so we combine fun and pleasure together. I appreciate there's a special category for gays so that we could get our fun as well. And the reviews help to choose the best game for the night.
Well I would have to say the internet is a great place to start to find what you are looking for, or you can always look up local gay clubs.
Eureka Springs, AR. Check it out.