Well here is some advice for those parent's who think or who has recently found out their son / daughter might be gay. *And by no means am I an expert or even educated enough to probably even give advice, so as you read if anyone chooses to read - this is only coming from a mom's heart.
Even though I have been pondering/expecting /preparing myself simply b/c of some of the signs and signals over the years and not that I wanted this to be true but mostly b/c of the consequences
- I just learned that my 20 year old son is gay. Yes - I will say as a mother that it is heartbreaking, painful, many tears shed and I've been told that there will be more emotions to come BUT
I can honestly say that the pain, the tears and my broken heart is what I am feeling for my SON.
We have an open door policy in our home, which means that our children are encouraged and shouldn't be afraid to come and talk to us about anything. Last year I tried to open that door / conversation when he seemed preoccupied / distant but never pushed it, so he went back to college with his secret. Well this time around I approached it differently b/c again I could tell he had something on his mind and I couldn't let him return to college knowing he wanted to talk. But you have to realize that my son and I are close and he has shared a lot with me over the years (maybe that is why, I don't know) But I told my son: I love you, I am your mother, I will always love you no matter what, I will always be your mother no matter what, I will always be here for you no matter what. And the words just came out. He said mom: I am gay and have been trying to fight this for a long time. I didn't ask to be this way, I have prayed and don't understand why? I have tried to like girls but I am just not attracted to girls. All I could do is grab my baby up, hold him tight and let him know that I love him no matter what, will always love him and be here always.
Now we didn't go into any details b/c this was the first and biggest step for him and I could see the weight and relief lifted from my son. But the consequences I spoke of earlier that I believe has and will continue the hurt, tears and heartbreak I shed for him. I did have to elaborate on mainly b/c its the truth and I am his mother. Consequences
- possible STD's, AID's but can also occur while in a heterosexual relationship.
- Dealing with mean / evil people, who or stupid and ignorant to your lifestyle, which is really no ones business.
- Discrimination which I guess could follow under the previous statement.
So for those parent's suspecting or just finding out that your child is gay. FYI: That child son or daughter is still your same son or daughter, who you loved before you ever found out their sexuality. It's not about you! It's about loving your child regardless and being there to support & protect them. I will do whatever it takes as his mother to make sure he is happy and protect him from mean/evil/ignorant people in this uneducated world. My son already knows how hard it is going to be b/c of how people act in this world, so thank God we were taught and blessed to love unconditionally.
There are so many people rejected and disowned because of their sexuality or other problems/addictions they might have and its a crying shame. Jesus Christ died for ALL,
if we could all be more like Christ what a wonderful world this would be. My SON is GAY and I love him no matter!
I will be is mother and here for him no matter what! And even more important God loves my son too!