You either find someone to act as a mediator to work out aa reasonable situation, or one of you finds a way to move out.
I live with someone whose interactions with me are at the 'bad end' of the 'not getting along' spectrum (NOT without reason-but this is personal), but moving is simply not an option. Suggestions please?
I saw a billboard today.
It said: If you don't like where you live, move---you're not a tree.
Admittedly, that's neither empathetic nor very helpful--- but it is (fortunately or unfortunately) the truth.
This is an unfair question because it lacks details. If your moving out is not an option perhaps the other party will move out. There are ways to encourage that outcome. It starts will an open conversation to discuss the interative problem (s) that are happening.
1. If you can't move because you're tied to a lease, talk to the landlord and see if you can't work something out.
2. Learn to say things like:
"I'm sorry you feel that way."
"The way that you talk to me is disrespectful and I'm not going to listen to it."
"I have noticed that when you talk to me about _____, you tend to focus on _____ instead of what I actually said. That seems to be the focus of our misunderstandings."
You are going to run into all kinds of people in your life and in some cases, you're going to need to stand your ground and insist on being treated with respect. If you are living with someone and you don't feel safe, then you need to actually think about options and think about the people in your life that can help. If you have no one, then start looking in your community for help. Dial 211 for assistance.
