I'm 14 and a gay guy. I want to come out and I think I feel 'ready'. I have a few gay friends and it seems to be fine for them so I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice on how exactly to do it, what to expect and what people will ask?

At 14, you're probably still in the process of discovering who you are and what you want in life.  You're certainly not experienced enough in your own sexuality to know if you're "gay" or not.  There's no rush to decide at this age.  You might think your gay friends are fine .. But that doesn't have anything to do with your sexuality.  Just live your life and decide naturally at the time where you have more life's experience.

I don't have a good answer for you because I've never been in that situation. I don't find the need to announce my sexuality to the world. In any event, you should ask your gay friends about their experiences in this and see if they can offer you any hints. Good luck.

Dear Anon,

Here is a thought for you to play with, to ponder a bit...

In an ideal world, there would be no need for anyone to "out," we could all just be what we naturally are. So, why don't you just abide for a time, and see what plays out - in other words, are we coming closer to that ideal?

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Meanwhile, do keep in mind that there is good research now and several fine books confirming that the GLBT communities contribute to society far beyond their numbers in literature, science, philosophy and the arts. They infuse a life-affirming, dynamic diversity into any culture.

And homophobia is an illness, just like any other phobia.