Does marriage really matter to have a baby? I think as long as you can support the child financially and emotionally it's all good.


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Ray Dart Profile
Ray Dart answered

Two parents in a stable relationship are better than one.

But I know a number of single parents (all women) who have done a really good job under difficult circumstances bringing up children.

There are no rules, (but I do think that two parents are better than one, for all sorts of reasons).

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Dance like a gypsy
True. I wasn't just referring to single parenting though. Also people who have had a child together that are boyfriend/girlfriend or even gay couples who haven't actually married.
Ancient Hippy Profile
Ancient Hippy answered

No. Marriage is a man made ritual that is not required to have a baby. Two partners could be great parents just as a married couple could.

PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

In the grand scheme of things, marriage often just a piece of paper.  If parents love and care for each other and their children it really doesn't matter. What matters is the commitment to do your best for your child. I have known couples wh never got married and have lasted longer than many married couples. 

Tom  Jackson Profile
Tom Jackson answered

Parenthood is about caring and nurturing and sharing your humanity with your children, but it is also---unavoidably---a model of interaction that you wind up sharing with those children which determines what they think is acceptable in the male-female relationships they will enter into as adults.

So, without their knowledge---and apparently without yours either---you are giving them opinions about the importance or non-importance of divorce, commitment, pair bonding, etc..

Personally, I think that being a good mother also requires being a good wife; just as I think that being a good father requires being a good husband.

I do think that single parents often do heroic jobs in raising their children, but I would not want to suggest that become the norm.

Tris Fray Potter Profile

Marriage doesn't matter.  As long as the parents are emotionally and financially ready to raise a child, I don't see why you wouldn't be able to.

Sharron Prestcott Profile

Marriage does matter, it's a commitment that you will stay together for better or worse.  Too many casual relationships today are just having babies and then finding out it's really hard work, frustrating and you need the security of a legal bond.  Too many children with different fathers and the same mother who is still interested in attracting men friends. 

I know I'll get a lot of criticism for this but Britain is the capital of unwed mothers in Europe, the result has been that the fathers are off with other girfriends and the children don't have the security of a father to depend on and an extended family because granny is often out partying.  A whole generation of what is now termed "feral children" have emerged as the result of the family unit falling apart.

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