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How do I convince my mother to let me be home-school? I've told her my reasons, social anxiety and it being too easy or hard depends on the subject. I showed her some websites about it and the pros and cons. Any ideas?

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Walt O'Reagun Profile
Walt O'Reagun answered

Unless you have actually gone to a psychiatrist and been diagnosed ... You can't claim to have "social anxiety".  Doing so is a disservice to all those who actually have the disease.

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chelsea xxx
chelsea xxx commented
i have gone to a psychiatrist and got diagnosed
Walt O'Reagun
Walt O'Reagun commented
Then your mother should already be aware of it, and you don't need to tell her.

She should also be aware of any recommendation the psychiatrist made, regarding treatment - including keeping you out of school.
chelsea xxx
chelsea xxx commented
she is addicted to drugs she doesn't really care
PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

Everyone has some degree of social anxiety. It is just some are better at hiding it than others. Is middle school/high school tough? Sure. The kids haven't figured out how to properly learn to socially interact with one another. And where do they learn to do that? In high school. By bailing out and hiding at home isn't doing you any favors. It is eliminating the chance for you to learn to deal with people, both good and bad.

So unless, as Walt says, you have not been professionally diagnosed with social anxiety there is no reason for you to claim that as an excuse. Why not ask your mom to help you find an activity that can help you build your confidence instead. For example, a lot of people who have trouble interacting with others join the drama club. They figure they can learn acting skills so they can just "act" confident when they aren't. And don't worry, that does not mean you need to get on stage in front of everyone. There are lots of people needed behind the scenes to make a play run smoothly.

If that isn't your thing look for another club or activity that works for you. It doesn't even need to be in the school. It can be community based. Like a hobby class like cooking or photography. At least there you will be who have something in common with you and it will be easier to learn how to connect with them.

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chelsea xxx
chelsea xxx commented
it would be weird for me to suddenly ask teachers for help i rarely talk at school and if i do ask for help and it still doesn't help then i don't know
PJ Stein
PJ Stein commented
How about you ask your mom for a tutor?
chelsea xxx
chelsea xxx commented
no i cant this house is feral it would be embarrassing someone coming in my mum has 4 kids 3 with ADHD im the only one that doesn't have it them kids run feral mum wont deal with them and she never cleans the house i clean my room and the dishes that's it she needs to help to ill help more if she does
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Moga Deet answered

I agree with Aux Arcs.  You need to confront your social anxiety and have it treated.  It can hold you back in life.  If you can't manage high school, how will you deal with the world of work or college?

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chelsea xxx commented
i already know what im doing for work its a job thats alone 99% of the time i work alone i have a job atm i love it love being alone
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Call me Z answered

Is your mom a teacher? Can she afford to pay someone to come to your home and teach you?

It is clear you haven't thought this through entirely, as you are more intent on refusal to face your shortcomings than working to overcome them. Everyone has weaknesses, success is not based on hiding from them. Life is tough, pleading for special treatment is not the answer.

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Call me Z
Call me Z commented
Thinking about it since you were eleven is not equivalent to making a solid, mature decision. You sound incredibly self absorbed, I'm actually regretting answering this question. You haven't the first clue of what you'll need to know to live as an adult, and if the final determination is left to you, then shame on your parents for abdicating good sense.
chelsea xxx
chelsea xxx commented
online schooling
Call me Z
Call me Z commented
You describe education in a vacuum. Learning taken at the pace of someone unwilling to be challenged, largely ignorant of what is needed, and directed toward a imaginary goal. Hopefully your undereducated mom will wish better things for your future than to bow to a capricious teen rambling on about "its too hard"...
Simply, you are unqualified to make this decision.

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