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Recently one of my friends told me he knew I liked him and he liked me too. He asked if I would go out with him but said to keep it a secret. I was so happy. I love him but I don't know if I want to be someones little secret. What do I do?

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Shandie Wilson Profile
Shandie Wilson answered

Hmmmm? I smell something fishy?! He knew that you like him, and you also know that you he likes you, so why keep it secret? In my opinion, that guy is just playing. If he really likes you, he need to show it - that's love!

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Jojo A. answered

"KEEP IT A SECRET" is a red flag my dear, it means there is someone else in the picture. He wants more than you but isn't sure yet, or he has someone he wants to leave if he finds someone else because he's too cocky or insecure to be alone. Keep yourself so much a secret , that even he doesn't know.

Lia Tan Profile
Lia Tan answered

If you don't feel comfortable with this, what you have to do is ask him up right why you are a secret and why can't the whole world know about your relationship? He has to have some sort of reason so hear him out. It doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't like you. It could be that he's insecure, that he's just trying this out as a trial period, or whatever. Or it could possibly mean that he doesn't like you and if that's the case then don't go out with him because that's just not going to end very well.

I will be honest that when I had my first relationship, I didn't want anyone to know that we were dating. I thought it was kinda weird and I was worried about what other people would think. Not to my surprise, many people didn't quite approve (not because he was someone who did bad things, but it was just because he was kind of an arrogant jerk and I was too stupid to not take that seriously), but they were pretty willing to accept it. But yeah, my reasons were because I was insecure about it. I liked him a lot but I wasn't sure about myself or about the relationship yet. Once I was sure, I was willing to announce it....although we broke up for the first time shortly afterwards so I don't know what that's supposed to entail. Oh well, it's all in the past.

Point is, people do weird things but they all have their reasons. If you find his reasons are justified, then maybe stick around to dating this guy. If you think they are totally ridiculous, then find someone else who is on the same page as you.

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Taylor Brookes answered

From my experience, if the relationship is kept a secret, it isn't serious and it NEVER works. Tell him that if he likes you and wants to go out with you, you won't keep it a secret. I'm not saying you should go around telling everyone you meet, but keeping a relationship secret is quite immature. It shouldn't matter what people think.

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