How come every time I try to push people away, they keep coming back, and when I try to stay away from a relationship it keeps coming to me?

Isn't that always the way? When you're keen to spend some time on your own you have people throwing themselves at you, but if you're lonely and on the lookout for someone, then suddenly nobody appears?

You'll be familiar with the phrase hard to get? Well it seems as though there is some truth in the old cliche. The less available you are, and the more you you push someone away, the keener they become.

As Alanis Morrisette would day: isn't it ironic?

My advice? Make sure you are honest with people, even to the point of being blunt, if you need to be. If you make your position quite clear, then there's no way they can think that you are just playing games and being coy, but might actually be interested.

Another cliche that appears to be true: Honesty is the best policy!