I have a crush on my best friend's girlfriend and I feel extremely guilty. What should I do?


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Sara Lewis Profile
Sara Lewis answered

Don't feel guilty! Of course it's natural to- your best friend obviously means a lot to you, but crushes are feelings that you can't control, so don't beat yourself up about it, is my main advice. I think most of us have been there.

You may feel as though you are betraying your friend in some way, but as long as you don't act on it in, you're not.

The situation becomes complicated if you think she may feel the same. If this is the case, I would probably advise to keep your distance for now. It may be that their relationship runs it's course without any intervention from you.

If, on the other hand, you are sure that she is in to him, that's where it gets hard for you, I guess. Your friend may want you all to hang out together and it will probably be difficult for you to see them together. Unfortunately, there's not an awful lot you can do about this. But the great thing about crushes- they always pass! 

I probably wouldn't advise telling her, although if you did, this is pretty cool way to go about it (and appropriate for Christmas-time!)

Amundsen Leung Profile
Amundsen Leung , Dear Anonymous:, answered

What you should do:

1. Look at how your best friend acts with his girlfriend.

2.Then check to see if they are dating or not.

3. If you want to take a risk and be brave, you can go ask on her.

Angela Anthony Profile
Angela Anthony answered

Leave her alone until they break up, if they do. Relationships change, set your sights toward someone else for now.

Gemma Baxter Profile
Gemma Baxter answered

The chances are this is just a crush and the reality would not be as exciting as you are thinking it will be. To split up your friend and his girlfriend will cause animosity. And there is still a chance she doesn't like you back. You need to try and find yourself a girl. Ask if she has any friends she could set you up with.

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