If you have a friend that seems to tell you to control your own life instead of SOMETIMES asking your parents for permission, is she a true friend or not?

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If you have a friend that seems to tell you to control your own life instead of SOMETIMES asking your parents for permission, is she a true friend or not?

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Answer 1

You can't ever really tell if someone is a true friend or not just by them saying what things you should make your own decisions on and what things that you should have your parents help you out with. Those are all advice and suggestions, doesn't mean anything too deep about the friendship except that she's willing to help you. If you really want to know, you've got to focus on her actions too.

But from what I can tell, your friend doesn't mean to harm you. She does have a point that there are some decisions you've got to make on your own and some that you've got to have your parents' help on. Although if she's talking about decisions concerning the law, then maybe she's not such a good friend after all. But if they're just decisions about small things like what classes to take, hanging out friends, deciding what to buy, etc., then she's just being reasonable. It doesn't make her the greatest friend in the world, but you know right off that she's not a bad friend. It only disproves that she isn't a bad person (unless it's about the law), but doesn't prove anything.

Answer 2

honestly her saying this doesn't mean shes not a true friend , Sometimes its really maybe how she doesn't really rely on her parents to make decisions and always just does her own thing so she may sometimes get annoyed that you have to ask your parents for permission for something as small as to the movies maybe , that even I have to ask my parents for , plus she's maybe just wanting to be a friend and wants you to control your own life instead of your parents having to give you permission, but they really is no bad about getting permission from your parents its actually normal for many people , parents don't want to hurt you or do things to ruin your life , although some parents are abusive and don't care . So if she keeps saying that tell her your situation and how your parents want to know where your going so I don't want to worry them blah blah .. Then if shes a true friend she will understand ..

Answer 3

It sounds to me like this friend wants you to do something your parents don't want you to do...

Becoming independent from your parents is something that will happen over-time naturally, but there's no reason to upset your parents just to please your friends. Because then, you'll just be breaking away from what your parents want you to do so you can do what your friends want from you.

Besides, as independent as you might feel, the truth is as you get older you'll realize it's actually pretty useful having a good relationship with your parents. They'll always be willing to help and support you when no-one else will. Including friends.