Shame on you for even attempting such a thing! Leave the man and his family alone. He has chosen to be with her - not you. He has made a commitment to his wife. What you are doing (or attempting to do) is simply not acceptable. A decent woman would not attempt to steal another woman's husband. I really can not say what polite society thinks of such a person, this forum will not allow it, but I can say - shame, shame, shame and double shame on you.