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Can A Muslim Man Get Married To A Christian Lady?

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Hi to all of you......

Well to answer that question I did marry a muslim man, and now we are seperated and divorced (islamicaly divorced at the moment). I am catholic, but my dad is arab (coptic Orthodox) and my mum portuguese (catholic). My ex was from Algeria, and we did get on amazingly at the beginning, but unfortunatley religion did get in the way. It is hard to turn your back on what you have been brought up to believe in since you were born, and after a while you do start to resent the person you are with, no matter how much you love them, because they cannot accept your views or western up bringing. I respected his religion,tried to fast during Ramadan,celebrated all his religious festivals etc  but he never tried to understand mine. We had similar cultural values as my dad is arab so that helped lot, but in the end we broke up because religion got in the way. This became more apparent when the subject of childern came up and we argued on how and what way they should be raised.

Looking back now I was so in love I did not think ahead and realise this would get in the way, because I thought love would conquer all. I still love him so much and miss him in my life, but I know in my heart that this could never work, as he needs a muslim girl to support him and understand him in the way that I can't. Its sad but true, two religions cannot mix regardless of love or cultural background.
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No. As a Christian we are not to be unevenly yoked. A Christian woman must marry a Christian man. A Christian woman would also know that she is to submit to her husband, and how would she be able to do that if he did not agree with her religion?
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I have been seeing my boyfriend for a month now and I am really scared about meeting his family , and I really want to know if there is a future for us can I get married to him as he is a muslim & I am a christian
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BCarpenter
BCarpenter commented
Be very prayerful. Ask God for wisdom, discernment and direction. I suggest you make sure you are compatible in every way. Two very different cultures and religions is a bigger deal than you realize now that you are in love w/star's in your eyes. Remember, there is no happily ever after...marriage is hard work. It is the hardest relationship to maintain.
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BCarpenter answered
I am a Chritian.  Have been since I was a child.  I married a muslim man who was suppose to be very religious.  Yes, the differences in our religions and culture caused many problems.  He was verbally, physically and sexually abusive.  He cheated.  He tried to kill me.  Thank God I could not have children because he would have stolen them and taken them back to his country (Iran) because he was determined that if there were children that they would be raised muslim.  By the grace of God I got away from him and we are now divorced. I am not alone...this has happened to many. Remember the movie, "Not Without My Daughter?" A movie based on actual events.  I am not saying that all muslins are abusive.  Be careful. Be prayerful.  Be sure.
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Lola A.
Lola A. commented
As a Muslim female, not saying that all Iran people are like that, but I've never really liked them. Even my dad, a Muslim man, does not want me to marry an Arab (we're Americans) as some of them can be very abusive. You see Iranian people take everything to the extreme. Very few are not like that. So I agree with you when I say to be careful. You don't want someone who gets mad at every little mistake as nobody is perfect. God did not create us to be perfect.
I'm sorry about what you went through by the way.
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george erving answered
Everyone has answered to their best ability but no answer seems to directly answer the question of how can both stay together let alone raise their children if both are very traditional
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BCarpenter
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If you wanted to stay together alot of prayer for guidance, wisdom, discernment, understanding and counseling w/someone neutral that you trust.
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H H answered
No , in islam the woman can only have one husband

in islam it's not even allowed to engage an engagded lady , so how come
he can marry a a married woman , for sure no
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Yes but if you truly love her don't force a christian lady to chose between you and jesus because you will take her to hall with you,don't get me wrong I think you should learn about jesus christ because righter you want it or not she leaves in jesus
maybe you don't understand me but as you discover you love her try to know more about jesus
I hope the best for you and I wish you happiness
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I have a muslim boyfriend and I love him very much, however my family does not agree with it at all and are making it very hard for me, where as I have met his family and they are perfectly fine with it. I really want everything to work out, I'm aware that we are different religions and have different expectations such as christian people christen their children and this is a problem that will occur later on in the relationship, however I think that if two people love each other then why should they be made to end a relationship because of their religion, it is just not fair and the younger generation mix together a lot now a days so it is extremely hard to expect things like this not to happen
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Yes, its possible but if you are raised in a western society several difficulties will arise. The two religions are completely opposite. I know this because I am a christian and my boyfriend of 4 years is muslim. We love eachother, but it does get hard sometimes as we both have different understandings of the world. For example, clothing - he hates western clothing. I was raised with it and I wear it nonethless. But arguments start and that is where it gets hard. As long as you love eachother and can come to terms with the fact that you have different values and morals, and you respect the others this then you should have no problems :)
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Yes. A muslim man can get married to a muslim woman, or a christian woman, or a jewish woman.
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yes, they most definitely can. I know this because my auntie is a Christian and she's married to a Muslim, who is my Godfather. It is good to be friends with people of all Religions and you can certainly get married to members of other Faiths.God(or Allah)likes all His people to be friends.
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Evan Andle answered

Can they?  Regardless of any other opinions, the answer is an obvious "Yes".  It has happened.  If you mean are christians "allowed to"?  Well, the only unforgivable sin for christians is to know God/Jesus/Holy-Spirit exists and chooses to not believe it and ignore it.  So the answer is still yes, even if it is frowned upon or seen as 'a sin'.

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Lola A. answered

It can be very difficult but I think that's where the test is. If you can compromise. I don't think only one should make the effort. I don't think either should force the other to do anything. When it comes to having kids, that's makes it even more complicated but I think you should let the child decide. Of course only when he or she is old enough to choose. Islam and Christianity have many similarities in my eyes. We both believe in all the Prophets. Islam believes that Jesus didn't die on the cross and that Prophet Mohammed is also a Prophet and then Christianity Believes that Jesus died on the cross and that there was no Prophet Mohammed. That's the only difference other than how they dress. There might be more but I'm not sure. Those are the differences I know of. I think you should raise your child in the middle. Teach him or her all the similarities and then when they come of age to choose exactly what they want to learn and they can go in deeper to the faith that they have chosen. This might be bad for the child, I'm not sure. I've never had one. It's just a suggestion.

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Lola A.
Lola A. commented
Oh I also forgot something else. Muslims believe Jesus is just another prophet while Christians believe he is the son of God....
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Yes, provided there is understanding between them. However let me quickly add that if the man knew about this religious difference and still wants to go ahead, why not.
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Yes I married but I hope my children learn to be muslim .inshallah I wiil do my best
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H H answered
Yes , that's accepted in Islam and she could remain christian or convert to Islam
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BCarpenter
BCarpenter commented
If you are really a Christian, I do not see this as an option. If a Christian really believes what the Bible says about being born again and eternity there is absolutely no way that person would convert. Eternal damnation, I don't think so! Why can't the Islamic man become a Christian?!
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sera bellen answered
The man can merried a christian but the muslim women can not  only if became a muslim
also the man must let the lady be muslim over the years XD
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Anonymous answered
Yes, even in muslim countries they allowmuslim men to marry with non muslim ladies, the opposit is forebidden, means muslim women cannot marry with non muslim man.
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The two religions have been at odds for thousands of years and now you expect them to start seeing eye to eye? Besides that, the muslim man's Dad is the "boss" of the family structure and this continues until the Dad's death. He would probably have to approve of the marriage which is his prerogative by rule and tradition. Aside from that, you have to also consider how "hard core" the families are about their religion.

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