Hello is generally a great place to start. But in all seriousness, starting a conversation doesn’t have to be a scary or difficult thing, although it is for many teens and young adults. A good portion of people make the mistake of falling back on cheesy lines they have heard or read and others just clam up. Neither is effective and both should be consider non options. Being you is an important factor in any successful conversation.
Finding a good middle ground which still expresses your personality, in how you communicate is another big one. Some people are raised in situations where it is normal to be loud, exceedingly cheerful or other such behavior that the general population is not accustomed to. A good way to judge the tone of the conversational style of the person you want to talk to is to observe them quietly. This doesn’t mean sitting in a corner staring at them, just casually paying attention to the tones they use.
A simple thing my father always said has gotten me through many of tough conversations, "The worst they can say is ‘No’.” Consider that deeply for a moment; translate it beyond a question, what really is the worst that can happen? It’s not the reaction that matters as much as your initiative to make contact and then, how you handle the reaction, whatever it may be.
Rejection is never hoped for but it does happen. Handling the rejection with style and tact will not only help you in that moment but also in future situations with anyone who witnessed the interchange. When people see you handling things with ease and tact they are more likely to engage you in conversation. It’s when crowds witness temper tantrums or obnoxious outbursts that you will have issues communicating.
Walking up and saying Hello should be easy, if the conversation starts, it’s natural, comment on something present and keep it light. Before you know it you’ll be old friends. If for some reason the conversation fails, consider it practice for the right one. Good luck!
Start with 'hi' or 'hello'
Then maybe say 'how are you?' or 'what you up too?'
See if he/she asks any questions and see if that leads to a good conversation.
Don't ask too many questions otherwise they might get bored!!!
The important thing to remember is to keep the conversation as normal as possible. Even though girls may find it awkward but it is far more difficult for boys to approach girls then believed. They are nervous wrecks and unless given encouragement by the fairer sex are bound to give up the effort all too easily. Though a guy may appreciate a girl who starts showing interest, a too strong coming on can prove counterproductive. It is perhaps a trait within our psychological minds that we value the chase or seeking a partner more than what follows after. It is perhaps vanity or the novelty that gets us going.
The best way is to begin by smiling and staring. Staring in a way that is not lecherous but shy is the first step. This indicates to the other ones interest. Early on it is possible to gauge if one receives the same type of glances in return. The next is to smile and then to talk. Early conversations should be short and sweet, followed by questions and then by more questions. Listening is as important as talking if not more so.
Make sure you keep it it simple and try not being perverted he/she will probably hate that if not then don't be really perverted then it will start to get annoying make sure your nice and give at least 2 compliments then be yourself think of he/she as a friend then you shouldn't be as nervous to talk to him/her
None of these queer examples of how you talk to a dude are helpful to anyone of the human race, if your going to talk to a guy you need to sound interesting and if he says he likes something you don't jump to google if you don't know what the hell it is you just say 'never really heard of them ill have a listen' you need to act like your above him, you need to show him that you have confidence but not too pushy he'll think your obsessed and a snobby bitch, to start a conversation with a guy when you've run out of things to say you talk about what hes into, say if hes sporty ask if he plays e.g rugby,football or ask if hes see his fave band at a gig, then tell him something interesting bout yourself but don't sound too bigheaded and self obsessed or he will suggest you think your better than everyone else
hope this helps:)
Try to make a joke or something, but be careful- make sure your jokes are not racy or not funny or insulting. Be yourself and talk about things you like. The topic could be random. For example, if you like sports you could ask him what team he likes. Or if you are into math or science ask him about what he thinks about school, but don't hold anything against him if he hates Algebra and you love it. Sometimes it is hard to not make the conversation awkward, but try your hardest to make the words flow smooth. If there is a long silence, just say "I have to go. Bye." to make it less strange and go.
Find out something the both of you are interested in, lyke sports, tv programs, events, movies music etc...
If you don't know his interests, ask him! Talk about it after.
you can talk about what happened that day.
Ask questions, lyke
"what did you do today"
"anything exciting happen to you today"
What I found super usefull is hanging out, doing something together, anything. That equals less phone time but more to talk about.
Talk about people :P
First you say hi to them and then just give them a friendly smile and let them say something and just go with the flow
Find something you both have in common. Talk about something that you both like to do, or would like to do. Ask each other questions, and you will build off of that. How can a conversation start without questions? Sooner or later you two will love talking to each other, and you will feel comfortable. If not, then you two were not made to conversate.
Try to stare at her when she sees you staring at her try to smile so she could know you are interested at her.. Next step try to say hi or hello when she passes by.... Next step try to approach her ... Try to take your fear.. Always remember try to outcome your fear it will just ruin your love life,,, after approaching try to say how are you or what's up... Keep the conversation going find to have a topic list..... Before talking to her try to practice it with your close friends or you alone in your room,,, always remember they are just crushes who are human beings ... Talk to them like what you and your friends are talking about.... Treat her first as one of your friends...
Everytime he talks to you just like expand on what he says
don't give answers like " yeah right" be like oh really thats cool
answer his questions , with a question :)
You can start with hey... Whats up? Then move on to how was your day..... Then you can ask what hes doing over the weekend then the conversation will carrie itself on! Hope I helped! Good luck!
Anything you want to talk about but usually its better to know what you guys have in common...
Depends on how old you are, and where you are. If you're at school you can ask what he thought of homework, or a particular teacher, or a tv show that was on last night. If you're older and in a restaurant you can ask what he likes on the menu or what he'd never order.
Usually you say hi, and then how are you, and wait for them to say something back to you. Then usually they will ask how you are, and you tell him, then you ask other questions like what do you like to do, or tell them about something that you like to do. It will get easier as you go. Hope this helps.
Well I have been talking to this boy on the internet for a few weeks now and I just don't know what to say and I like him and his mate says he thinks I'm pretty but I really want to talk to him with out annoying him or sounding desperate Please help me
If you see him and you like his hair or clothes or something say it. If he says thank you just ask a question like I like your sneakers are they converse or if hes wearing like a band t-shirt you like, just say I like that shirt where did you get it? And stuff like that will start a conversation look approachable and nice.
Id tell him how you feel because then he'll respect you more knowing you had guts to tell him. That could lead to a VERY long and interesting conversation
Am the same I am 14 I talk to the guy on msn but at school hes not in my classes I only see him at break and lunch what should I say
Say hi talk about stuff you both like then if you like (him) kiss him!
If your in school still ask him for help on homework, then start talking about something else. Or just say your bored out of your mind and want to chat
Hey I don't mean to burst any bubbles but I went through the same thing. In my case it seemed like I was boring him. And I found out later from him that he doesn't like me. Soooooo...
Well just like you were talking to your friend
Accidentally bump into him and say oh sorry I didnt see you there. Thats how you start a conversation.
Find something you both like. Do you both like a certain sport, music or anything else. This will help.
Try to notice funny things at school then when you talk to him later inform him about those things tell jokes
Well...I'm going through the same stage. The problem is my friend hooked me up with a boy,and now my cousin hooked me up with a boy,too. So I'm kind of stuck. My friend hooked me up with the boy first. We hadn't communicated for almost a year. So I didn't think it still lasted. Then last night my cousin asked me was I single, and I said yes. So this boy who was 13 and sounded so sexy said hello told me his name, and asked for my number.So I gave him the 10 digits and we just talked like a normal new couple. So this morning the boy that my friend hooked me up with called to say whats up. I told him I'll call him back. But I'll be able to meet the boy that my cousin hooked me up with in August.Woah...HELP!!
Like what everyone else said, just like talk to your crush like your friend. Its always best to be friends with them first, get to know your crush, and let your crush know things about you, just be calm and everything will be fine. Be positive and act normal, their just friends. Good luck
If you realy him you should know his friends too. Get too know them and pick a boy to ask him about. Act like your interested in the other boy and then he'll start to try and get you to like him more. Your probably thinking this will never work. Well stop thinking that!!!!! Because your wrong!!!! I tried it on my crush, it totally worked it also worked with my friends. Just try it ok !!!! Sleep , Read , Eat apples !
I would try talking about stuff he likes.Maybe a foot ball team he enjoys, or a video game he has been talking about.You don't need to know much about it, just ask questions about it.If he likes it, he wont be able to stop! LolAnd if talking on the phone becomes hard to do, then try talking in person.Go grab a ice cream, or something. And talk! What ever you may like also works.And don't be afraid to tell the guy you think the phone calls are awkward.
If you have a mobile and have his number text him in the evening, this gives you a nice aura, don't say long sentances, just some sweet comments like "sup good lookn" or "your so sweet" or even " so nice chattin w you". In person do the lean and whisper, lean in to him and whisper a compliment into his ear if he leans back and touches your head, you in. After whispering the compliment look at him and giv him a glimps of your sweetest smile :)
First you should say hey, ask him what he is doing, then start directing towards things he likes. After that try to get the conversation to something both of you enjoy.
A good way to get to know the person is to play would you rather, mix it up a little!
Well apparently you like him he likes you you should be good but you can't start a conversation I can't either but I figured out what he likes the most HALO 3 TAKE 3 ....EXT so he likes video games find what he likes and just go along with what he says like I know that was a cool part too but if he starts getting all weird while talking to you change the game really quick so he keeps talking keep him yap ing although I couldn't do that because he had minutes
I think you already knew what the exciting things in his life try and find the things he love and brefer start with his friends especially men because men loves they private time and then with his favorite sport, songs and movies try to talk with him also in your important things then the talk will not end... Try to tell him all the details you can tell him about your day and ask him to tell you about his day also ..good luck
Umm, phone conversation lol, you don't bump into people on the phone lmao.
You can start by saying hi and how are you! Good Luck!
Just think of something thats going on around town, or just think of something that you like, for example drawing, or dogs. You know? Try stuff like that. =-)
Well There some lad and he always speaking to me and we have some great convo but then when he asked me out. It was awaked and we had nothing to talk about. But then when were not going out. Its back to that great convo. HELPP. !!
Firstly, it is great you are already talking on the phone with him. You could talk about upcoming events in school or exciting current news. Be casual and if conversation gets dull, say you have to go, don't let the conversation draw on...
If you like him you should tell him how you feel
see what he says and where that leads